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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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That is a lot of damage to your vehicle @Determined. Did they indicate how long the job would take?

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10 to 12 working days @Former-Member

Lucky we are now in town and I can walk most places.

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There's always the push bike @Determined or fast track the middle age crisis purchase 😁.

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LoL @Former-Member licence booked in for 4 weeks time. (We have to do a driving course in qld to get a bike licence). After that it is 3 months of having a licences person follow behind before another driving test so February next year before I will be fully licensed.

Dusting off the push bike as we speak lol.

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That's a nuisance about your car being damaged and the time it will take to be repaired @Determined. Try to take care of yourself. Hope you get to spend some nice family time this weekend.

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Spending the day at a beach side waterpark @soul. Mum and sister have joined us with their little charge so looking forward to a nice family time.

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@Determined

Thinking of you this morning.

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Hope you are enjoying your weekend @Determined and that the coming week will be a good one for you.

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Thanks @soul @Former-Member

Yesterday was a lovely day. finished with a pop unfortunately and today was a bit bumpy.

Currently an uneasy truce hanging over the house 😞 After the lovely day yesterday I let my guard down and got burnt (emotionally) in the process.

Great message at church this morning about being grateful in all things... it was right on cue and just want I need at the moment to keep me going.

I am looking forward to my final exam for the year being over in 2 weeks tomorrow so I can take some time out. The course for my bike licence is in 4 weeks, I am really looking forward to that.

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Yikes @Determined - sometimes we need the bad to appreciate the good. Yay for a light at the end of the tunnel with your exams. Time for a well deserved break then. Wishing you well with your assessment.

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