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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Haven't had that happen to anyone I know before @Determined

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Going bike shopping this afternoon with my mum. Turns out who I thought would be my biggest critic (most anxious about the idea) is my biggest supporter. She is actually considering getting a bike of her own to go riding with me 😁

Mentioned a side cart would be fun until I sent her this lol

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There are some nice 3 wheelers that might be better for a senior citizen (talking about Mum here) @Determined. Do you think you would look at a side car for your darling (or kids)? 😀

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PS I would not be brave enough to go in a side car 😀

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So frustrating for you @Determined - hope the moving thing is sorted out soon. Kids back at school now. How are they going?

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How did you get on today @Determined

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@Former-Member 😉

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@Former-Member Darling is not remotely interested in the ikenidea at the moment. Happy for me to do this but wont be joining me.

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@soul nice to hear from you. Trust things are ok for you.

Children are back at school this week.

Bit worried about S2. He will be seeing a new councillor starting in 2 weeks. I had an introduction meeting with her this week to pass on some background that s2 does not need to hear. Based on that discussion she wants me to get him to a child psychiatrist for an official assessment. Third time lucky. This is the first person in that capacity not to tell me I am just emotional and over reacting.

S1 doing ok. Always in the moment.

S3 starts at a new kindy tomorrow. Hoping we have made the right decision there but were not happy with the last one. But as always he is a happy easy going little chap.

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Did not find any bikes locally @Former-Member

A couple out of town that we may go and look at some time this week or next weekend. I'm in no hurry as I dont go for my licence until mid November. I am quite amused (in a good way) how mum has caught the bug from me. She has not been interested in bikes since she had children. She has actually mentioned looking at some 3 wheelers. We will be checking some of those out.

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