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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Hoping settlement issues resolve soon @Determined

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Settlement scheduled for the end of next week @Former-Member. If it all falls over dont know what we are going to do. More than a little concerned atm.

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Dropping by quickly before I go back to hiding.

I'm not doing particually great at the moment but I will be ok. Lurking around the different threads from a distance but not feeling overly social. Just wanted to touch base to let all followimg here know I am still around.

I had a near meltdown at work today over something not really that important but I became overwhelmed and felt like I was goimg to burst into tears. It was a wake up to me that I am not doing as well as I thoungt I was and it unfortunatly would not take much to break me at the moment. Having tomorrow at home, I should be going to class but going to wag and watch the lecture online. Hopfully catch up with a friend in the afternoon. Contemplating calling in sick on Friday. Its another 2 weeks before I can get back to see my GP or councillor hoping I can hold out until then. Not wallowing in a pity party though, just taking some time out for me.

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Hi @Determined

Are you settled now?

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Things are a little more settled here atm for however long that lasts. Another 4 week extension until the settlement of our new house has caused more than a little stress and tension.

I went looking at motorbikes today. I'm calling self care someone suggested mid life crisis perhaps lol either way it is something I have wanted to do for a very long time and seriously considering. Surprisingly my mum is most supportive. Suggested she may consider getting a bike and we can go riding together. That was unexpected 😊

Darling doesn't care as long as we have enough left over for a new vacuum cleaner. Fair trade I recon 😂

I am feeling quite weary atm though. Very run down and emotional. Looking forward to end of semester at uni.

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@Former-Member that was good timing.

I was in the process of typing the above when your message came in. Definitely more settled than things have been but I could not say totally settled.

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@Determined

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Hi @Determined

Hope house issues can be sorted so settlement goes ahead.

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So do I @Former-Member

Seems the sellers are having trouble clearing their mortgage. If they cant do that???

May have to move again 🤬

I just cant believe this was not sorted before the place was put on the market. Agents recon they have not seen anything like this before.

4 more weeks now and hopefully it will be over.

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