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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

DeterminedSenior Contributor22 Jan 2018, 1:25 pm AEDT

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Unknown userMember23 Sept 2018, 3:35 pm AEST

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@Determined

Sending ever so gentle thoughts your way.

Darcy

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soulSenior Contributor23 Sept 2018, 6:03 pm AEST

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Sounds like you’re doing it tough @Determined. Giving you a medal (the gold one) for your efforts. You have such a big heart. Do take care of yourself too.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 Sept 2018, 10:38 am AEST

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Feeling relieved this morning.

I went looking for some office supplies and found darlings meds that have been missing since we moved. I have been having some anxiety that she may have found them and stored them for a a later date. (Based on prior events)... They were in a box that she put aside for me to sort out. I knew I had put them somewhere she would be less likely to look in and it worked... problem is I forgot where to look also lol.