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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Hey Bro, is there light at the end of the moving tunnel @Determined@

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Almost there @Former-Member

Had mum.and brother helping today.

Items remaining include

1 load for the dump.

1 load for scrap metal.

Bundle of 10m irrigation pipes that I have no idea what to do with or how to move them

(Suspect I will have to cut them down int more manageable pieces)

1 small load of tools for the shed.

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I am getting more and more anxious about any yard items that they may try and delay on tomorrow afternoon.

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@Determined, I imagine you've been too busy today to get online. Hope the last bits came together OK, and that the house is now safely handed over to its now owners.

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Thanks @Smc

Got the last load out with 4 hours to spare and the settlement went through without any problems this afternoon.

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Yay @Determined

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Yay! Relax and enjoy the new place. 🙂

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LoL @Former-Member @Smc

Now I have the good lady on my case about sorting all the boxes in our garage and shed.

My mum.has a big load coming her way tomorrow with stuff I was going to dump that she wants. After that our loaner trailer needs to be returned. For the next 2 weeks I will be head in books catching up on study and assessment.

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Snap @Former-Member! Honest, I posted mine without having seen yours. So is that great minds thinking alike or fools never differing?

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@Determined can understand your darling wanting things done, each time we have moved, I have thought it an opportunity to have things sparkling, readily accessible and easy to find 😀.

Hearing you though that your up and go has all but up and gone and here to support you Bro. If you cannot face doing the shed as a job lot, are you able to deal with one box a week, ensuring that everything from it gets put into place before starting on the next one?

@Smc I was thinking exactly the same thing 😀

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