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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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About 4 or 5 trailer loads I think @Former-Member

Also have some stuff on gumtree that can go to the salvos or dump if not gone by Friday.

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So that sounds like a busy but not unmanageable week ahead. All the best with it.

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My shed currently looks like the pic that lapses put up on the declutter thread only the shed is 3 bays wide.

Office and lounge room inside the house is not much better. Probably 2 full days to get it in order.

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Remembering you and yours @Determined.

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Thanks @Former-Member

Had my tests today. Nothing unexpected foun thankfully. Have had reflux meds increased though.

Darling actually came with me to drive me home. That would have been a big effort for her especially having to wait around for over 4 hours.

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Hi @Determined

It is lovely that your darling drove for you.

Trust all got done at old home and that unpacking at the new place going OK and the missing goods were found. Hoping too you will be able to relax a little now your procedure out the way and old house handed over.

Thinking of you, whilst changes can work out well, they can be difficult to negotiate.

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Thanks @Former-Member

Still going on the old house. Hand over is at 2 pm on Monday. Going to take tomorrow and Monday morning to get it all done.

Missing items are still a mystery 😐 I am just hoping they have not been found and stored for a later date.

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@Determined

Hope things go OK - are friends or family members helping?

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My mum had been a huge help @Former-Member

Hoping my older brother will be here tomorrow. Heap of stuff to do in the yard now after the pre settlement inspection this afternoon. I'm am just tired and over it all. Stressed and irritable and finding it hard to focus and do anything. Mum and darling took the lead in loading the trailer this afternoon. Feeling more than a little useless at the moment.

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@Determined would anyone at church respond to an SOS?

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