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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

DeterminedSenior Contributor22 Jan 2018, 1:25 pm AEDT

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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WinterzSenior Contributor28 Aug 2018, 8:24 pm AEST

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Not really. I can talk to my partner's Mother but she usually just ends up
talking about herself and how hard her life is lol

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SmcSenior Contributor28 Aug 2018, 8:27 pm AEST

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Determined, 😞 Yeah, that's hard.

From time to time I run into ex-classmates from my Ceramics Cert., or see their work in galleries, and I think the deep, sad loss I feel at times like that may be somewhat akin. I wonder where my work would be up to if it hadn't been put aside.

I do take encouragement from people who have had a similarly interrupted career and come back again. There's one lady I follow on Facebook who makes beautiful seashell inspired bowls, and some time ago she put up pictures of her "old" work. She returned to it after 10+? (can't remember exactly) years of having to be away from it, and while her old work was good, her recent pieces are really lovely.

Maybe for you too, it might be a matter of "when the time is right". But is hard that the time isn't "now".

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WinterzSenior Contributor28 Aug 2018, 8:28 pm AEST

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

I hope things start getting better for you soon.:)

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Unknown userMember28 Aug 2018, 8:29 pm AEST