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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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@Former-Member it seems people I work with are more worried about manflu than I am, had to leave work early after some rather pointed hints were dropped that I should not be there. And I thought I was feeling better today lol. I was goinb to get onto some assessment work but spent the afternoon sleeping. Hope I can now sleep tonight.

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@Determined if you can't sleep tonight you could always attend to the lawn mower bits ... 😀😀😀

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Haha @Former-Member Im sure neighbour's would love me for that not to mention my darling. 😂

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Was contemplating getting the laptop out and doing some work but brain fog is a bit heavy to be successful with that.

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@Determined, very glad to hear that you're "manflu resistant", but it sounds like this one's knocking you around. Get yourself a nice hot lemon and honey drink and head to bed?

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No honey for me @Smc, have had some lemsip though and that helps a bit.

Have spent most of today in front of the computer and achieved nothing.
Feeling bad as this is group work and I have not put in much of a contribution so far,

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Hi @soul, this is where you will find the latest in my world,

Seems as though there have been more downs than ups but things are steady at the moment after a med tweak so I am most grateful for that.

Bub started kindy 2 weeks ago on the days I am ay uni to give darling a break, he seems to be loving it. Growing up too fast as they do. All three boys are doing well at the moment.

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@Determined quick wave Bro

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Glad that the kids are doing alright @Determined. Steady is better than down - not as good as up but yes - something to be thankful all the same.

I hope that up stage is soon upon you. You certainly deserve some better times.

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Continuing to uphold you both in prayer @Determined

I was impacted profoundly (positively) by the talks that I put a link to in Church and mental health thread.
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