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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Been a big week here.

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You coping @Determined?

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In a scattered kind of way @Smc

Definitely low levels of tolerance and concentration atm.

Have had a couple of goes putting some thoughts down here but come back and delete because I don't want it to fall into the too much info category.

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Yeah, know what that's like.

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Hopefully we will have a better idea on what is going on after Wednesday.

News we recieved on Friday was encouraging.

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Ok so I think I can now share a little bit without getting as emotional.

We found out recently that our S3 has a form of brain tumor 🥺

Have had different specialist reviews over the past week and now are confident that it is benign and not causing any ill effect.

It was picked up in milestone screening process related to genetic risk.

This is great news (the benign and no ill effect bit) as any form of treatment carries functional risk. Certinally at the moment risk associated with any intervention outweighs any precieved benefit.

It does however require regular checks and screeing indefinatly as there is a small risk that the status may change.

There is an equally small risk that it may even go away by its self. Wouldn't that be nice.

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❤️ @Determined

It would be very nice ..... 🙏

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@Determined, am very glad it's confirmed benign.

I'm actually a "success story" re. surgical removal of a benign brain tumour. Full recovery. But it's not an experience I'd wish on anyone. My surgery was 16 years ago, and I get the impression that surgical techniques have improved greatly since then, but better still if it turns out S3 never actually needs it.

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