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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Hearing you @Determined .... ❣️

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I think the last 4 weeks of break and the lack of progress on planned events/ tasks demonstrate fairly clearly my need of something structured to keep me moving forward. Nothing like fast looming deadlines to get one motivated lol

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Have been reminded again today just how fragile I am under pressure.

Had workers turn up early this morning to start repairs on our roof. I was not expecting them until Thursday or Friday.

I have some queries about work processes that still have not been responded to by project manager.

Then today at work there was an issue that was not really mine to fix but I felt obliged to sort out. a bit of a 'hot potato' being passed around that no one wanted to know about. All of the avenues for escalation were unavailable due to meetings. Have since been told that I would have been within my rights to say not my problem but I am not wired that way lol.

All minor bumps within the big picture but enough to rattle me unfortunately.

300km round trip bike ride planned with my mum tomorrow with a stop at a bird sanctuary in between.

Darling FIL and boys are meeting us there 🙂

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Yikes @Determined sounds like it is all happening, nothing like a deadline to get us moving.

Roof repairs happening = yay.

Be nice for you to get out on the bike again and trust it helps relieve a bit of the stress you are feeling.

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Roof repairs Definatly = yay @Former-Member

Has only taken 10 months to get to this point. Same storm that totalled the car.

Would have been nice if it happened before we moved in and the previous owners had to deal with it.

Oh well. Despite my anxiety in the process the finished result will be worth it.

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I was having a giggle this morning wondering who woukd be first to hit scaffolding with the car, darling or FIL, giggled too soon... turned out to be me. And of course with an audience.

One of the workers asked if we could move the car and were all watching and waiting. 😐😣

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Ooooh ... sucky @Determined.. Glad you have found a way to make light of it by sharing it with us ..... 👍

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How was outing today @Determined ?

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Was a nice day @Former-Member ... enjoyed by all, children are still buzzing ☺

Uploaded some pics to photo and birdy threads.

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I reckon we might have visited that bird park when we holidayed in Qld @Determined

We hired a buggy to look around as both Mr Darcy and his brother have crook joints.

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