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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Thoughts and prayers with you @Determined.

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Thankyou @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Smc

Having a rough time here.

Darling and boys holding together better than expected at the moment. See how things go after the memorial service.

I'm not doing so great however. Have a chronic cough that comes when I get really run down that everyone seems to need to comment on and give advice for. On top of that randomly bursting into tears makes it impossible to hold a conversation with anyone.

We have some amazing support though from my family and our local church. We really are blessed despite the current grief we are all feeling.

Just wanted to check in so you know we are ok. Thoughts are with you all also.

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More hugs incoming @Determined .... wishing you all well around and through the grief.

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Morning @Determined , hope everything is going well on your end. We are all too hard on ourselves over how well we are doing, hopefully we can all find that person to lift our spirits and point out the positives. Its all too easy to focus on the negatives (i am notoriously bad at it lol). In my case, when i constantly have someone telling me all the time that everything thats wrong is my fault, it makes it hard to be positive.

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@Determined

A time to mourn ... A time to cry

*hands over box of tissues

Thinking especially of you Bro.

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@Determined

Quick wave Bro, thinking of you lots.

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Here too...

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Thanks @Former-Member appreciate your thoughts a lot. Things here are as well as they can be.

Darling Dad and children are holding up well.

After Tuesday will be the test.

I have a viral infection which is most frustrating. Hoping it clears up by Tueaday.

Went to GP today and told to rest and let it take its course.

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Thanks also @Smc

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Keeping you in thoughts this week @Determined

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