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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Quick pop in before I try and get some sleep as I may be 'off the grid' for a bit.

Mum in law is not in a good way and not expected to be with us much longer. If she is still with us by morning I will be surprised.

S1 is inconsolable. Darling is hanging on by a thread. She was avoiding S1 as she cant cope or help him. Dad inlaw is hanging on by a thread also. Everyone closest to me is falling apart and nothing I can do to help them except hold them. I am so blessed to have my mum here propping me up.

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Thinking of you too @Determined 💕

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@Determined

Often a hug without words is the best course of action.

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Lots of hugs and prayers from here @Determined .

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@Determined Thinking of you in this truly heart wrenching time - be gentle with yourself and keep breathing

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Mum in law passed away peacefully this afternoon. Feeling gutted. She has been my rock through so much. I never knew how to tell her how much I appreciated that. (And in saying that I take nothing away from the amazing support my own mum has given me. They both have their own very special strengths).

I really need to sleep so I can be rested to face tomorrow but sleep just won't come. Not looking forward to tomorrow. Leaning on the promise of the words to the song I shared on Christian chat thread at the moment.

If I am not around I will be ok. We have good support around us. Will try to pop in where I can just to see some friendly faces.

Thinking of all my special friends in your individual travels but dont have the strength to check in and comment on other threads. Thinking of you all though ❤

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@Determined

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💜 @Determined ......

Thinking of you, and your darling, and wonderful kids. So glad your MIL was a beautiful person who cherished you all ......

Hugs ❣️

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Heaps of love to you and your family @Determined . Thanks for keeping the rest of us in mind too, but look after yourself first.

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Thinking of you @Determined .... and it’s okay not to respond. Tough day for you and I just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you.

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