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Cancer took my husband of 40 years. Not coping.

StartaSenior Contributor

Cancer took my husband of 40 years. Not coping.

Hello.
I'm not coping at all. I miss my husband so much i lived for him.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Morning @Starta

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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@Starta sorry Indid not get back to you yesterday, you were in my thoughts.

Trust today is a better day for you.

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StartaSenior Contributor

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Hello @Former-Member...just calling in to say hello..sweetheart...where’s there’s a will there’s a way..thankyou...bbl....sending love and hugs 💜💜🤗🤗..

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Unknown userMember

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@Starta G ............... Oh dear ... I cannot stop the tears. I've been feeling so terrible all night. Do you like my profile pic? This is my beautiful Holly. Please no rush to get back. I just feel so much better knowing I'm not completely alone. 💜🤗

Thanks for tagging me onto this thread too. I had read some of it a long time ago I think, but then could not find it again.

Oh ... happy days! Later .... any time.

Sherry

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StartaSenior Contributor

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Same here sweety.. too many 😭 are falling a lot...

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Unknown userMember

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Good evening @Starta. I think your weekends are pretty much free time for you at the hospital? I hope you're able to spend time doing something nice. I heard that you are having roast chicken for your dinner tonight. I am too. I hope the person in charge of the potatos does a better job of things than last week.

Starta, I am a bit concerned at BB where members are asking questions in support of me and even questioning safety or security. I have never questioned the safety of them there. Merely the fairness of their treatment of individuals, where one rule exists for some and not for the rest. It really is not worth making public declarations of support for me. Much as I love you all for trying, it really is best that you dont. Last thing I want is for you (or anyone else) to be cut off from your chosen support. I would be devastated if that were to happen. BB offer a lot, as do all MH forums. I would not be so devastated about being booted out if I did not thing they were worthwhile. Although it also has a lot to do with the people themselves, of which you are one. Special Starta .. very special indeed. There is a lot involved in this mess I find myself in. Put simply, I'm considered a rogue ex-CC, under a different name then of course. I tried to make things better last year, but sadly I failed and resigned amidst some bad blood with some. I tried to post there this afternoon, but its not appeared. Clearly I'm on hold, though not cut off yet. To do so would not look good I guess. That will likely be reviewed tomorrow. Interestingly my earlier posts remain for now. Given so many have already read and responded, they probably decided it best to leave them, or it would look like a cover up. I'm really sorry I've inadvertently got you involved. I only wanted to let you all know I was safe, though unable to respond. Now due to the latest discussions there, I think I have caused some major fallout. I hope not, because it was not intended.
Thankfully I have always found SANE to be very supportive, friendly, non-political and with no backroom niggle or personal agendas which could adversely affect we the members. They are a very well run organisation. I wish all Forums were run as efficiently and fairly. Being moderated 24/7 also makes a huge difference to safety and smooth running. Something you dont get everywhere.

Starta I am sorry your hospital stay has been increased, likely by a week or two I think you said? Its likely the extra week is needed because of the changes to the meds you've undergone. And I guess the extra week or two will have a positive effect for you. It does sound like you're making progress .. walks, breakfast, therapy sessions. I think you're ticking a lot of boxes. Go you!! Happy to talk any time Starta. Please keep well and do what you need to in order to get home to your little doggies. Love and hugs to you dear friend.

Sherry 🤗💕💜🌺👂

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Unknown userMember

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Good night @Starta. I hope you sleep well tonight. I know they place a lot of importance on sleep when it comes to combatting depression. I am so needing a decent sleep tonight ... so I am off to bed now.

Perhaps we can talk in the morning if you have any free time in between everything else they have you doing there.

Much love and a gentle hug coming to you. Sending you a beautiful and restful starry night sky to look upon. It may be a better view than you currently have. I will wish upon a star for you gorgeous.

Sherry

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Unknown userMember

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Good morning dear friend @Starta. You've been quiet the last couple of days. I hope you are okay? Are they continuing to work you hard there? I'm happy to read that you will not be spending Christmas on your own this year. I feel sure all this hard work you are doing now, and the sacrifices you have made, will be repaid with much improved mental health and wellbeing. I'm grateful indeed that you have been provided with this opportunity.

Your dinner there last night sounded nice, quick and nutritious. Its good to see that they also concentrate on basic self care and the importance of healthy eating. It is important. I know myself, lack of sleep and lack of adequate food, combines to bring me down very quickly.

I am continuing to read your thread, and Deebis too. I was deeply touched when I read her mentions of me. She is such a thoughtful lady and good friend to many.

Starta, I am not in a good place right now, so may be a bit quiet for a bit. Thankyou for reestablishing contact here again. I think it was back in January that we last spoke here. So its been a while. Im grateful to still have contact, but I will understand if you change your mind. Also, if you get sick of my daily messages here, just let me know to back off. I dont want to overwhelm you.

Have a good day Starta.

Sherry 💕💕

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StartaSenior Contributor

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Hello @Former-Member..it’s okay, I. Just really not feeling good after the psychiatrist visit yesterday....I have been told that the units close down for 3 days, because they feel I’m unsafe to go home, they are going to have me stay in the acute (forced) ward until they re-open..I’m scared they might forget I’m upstairs and leave me there...I don’t think I’ll tell Deebi, I don’t want to spoil her holidays..Ilol see how I feel....She is coming down from mania, so she’ll be doing it really hard now for a few weeks..

Im sorry sweetheart that your not doing so good..if you need to talk..I’ll be sitting with you.today...

Take good care of you dear friend...

Love and hugs...💜💜🤗🤗,

Starta..

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StartaSenior Contributor

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Hello @Former-Member, I wrote here when I was missing my husband the person he was when I first married him, before he took control of me and my life...I wanted to see what it was like to talk nice about him...l felt guilty and ashamed about doing that so I left here..... My kids used to visit all the time when hubby was alive, and then slowed down up until the day son 2 found me..then my kids didn’t want me any more... I understand if you want me to go..

anyway I wanted to send you a picture of my 2 special friends...Mumma...Kya..Daughter...Ebony..

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