soul’s year of recovery

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@Shaz51

So another week has passed and I am plodding along. I have managed a couple of trips in my new car - even one through city traffic. Although I have been driving since I was seventeen, my accident has left me a bit shaken and I was extra cautious. Getting familiar with different car configurations is also an issue. I'm supposed to take it in for a service at the end of the month but i can't see myself having clocked up the 1000 kms by then.

I went to the hairdressers yesterday. I don't usually spend a lot of money on those services (probably more on the dog grooming actually) but I departed feeling pretty good. Have just the one physio session this week. I continue to work hard at my exercises and see small improvements.

My kids came over for lunch today and my son helped me with the garden - purchasing and speading mulch. I would like to grow some herbs so that could be a project. Plants don't tend to survive very long under my care. I missed out when green thumbs were being handed out.

I am having lunch with some friends on Friday and feel a bit apprehensive about that. It's depressing when they talk about their happy lives - close knit families, what they have been up to, what home improvements they have done, where they have been or are going to. Guess, I'll just have to let it wash over me. That used to be my life.

I also want to try to join up some common interestt groups but am not sure where to start. Hopefully they aren't a really tight group who don't welcome strangers. Now that I am fairly mobile again, I should be able to access these kind of things - it's just the confidence thing.

There are a few friends I could contact that I haven't seen for a while - that could be an option too. Again - a bit scary.

Hey there @soul - I'm with @CheerBear and not getting a tag for the thread either. I stopped by because a 'kudos from' came up in my feed, but I've gone back and checked and no 'mentioned you' is there.

I'm so pleased for you that things are moving along so nicely, given all the other stuff. Little steps, which you are doing, or planning on doing, are the best ways to find a new sense of belonging for yourself. When life changes is such dramatic ways, it's really hard to be amongst those superficial conversations and still feel any sense of connection. It is for me anyway.

The joining an interest group has not worked for me, the cliques in this place are functioning very strongly, and it's really uncomfortable for me when I don't/ won't join in with their sharing of family photos and gossip mongering. Different towns are differently welcoming though, and I do really hope it works for you.

Town Council often has a list of interest groups in the town/ region, their website might be a starting place. Libraries often have sessions on varying subjects too. Information centres are another good source of interest group information, and sometimes they need volunteers if that's of interest to you too.

Driving again will be both exciting and scary, so many more paths opening up for you! So nice to hear some good news @soul.

Keep looking after you, you're an inspiration in how diligent you are with the self care to get on top of things again.

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@outlander ^^^^