rough time

@outlanderIn some ways your pop has you over a barrel. He's abusing your good nature and relationship to make you feel guilty about not contributing enough. If you keep paying extra for bills, he'll keep taking advantage. Now you've used your savings. Tell him you have no more money and he has to cough up his share. If he refuses, you'll have the services cut, and if he wants those restored, he needs to help. Sometimes older people have large chips on their shoulders. They believe that they have worked hard for their country, paid their taxes, and even gone to war. True, they may be ohave worked hard and payed taxes; so does every other working person. It's a fact of life is paying bills. You're not an awful person even if the choice comes for him to go to a retirement home. It'll be for his best interests not for your guilt or lack of caring.

You're so kind, caring and compassionate. These are beautiful qualities. But with this comes vulnerability and a propensity to be taken advantage. Make your boundaries, make them strong to protect your, and don't back down from those. You're just as important as any one else.

I love Let's Talk about Borderline Personality Disorder | DBT Skills – An Overview – Episode 26, let's play it! http://www.podbean.com/media/share/dir-8x2gt-48ab8d2

This is from a pod cast @outlander

It's really good. About an hour long

@outlander, hope you don`t mind -- is pop your mum`s dad or your dad`s dad

one idea @outlander, is setting your pop`s bills through direct debit to pay his bills on the day through the bank