outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Shaz51 ive suggested that a few times but he doesnt want me to do that. He likes to have cash.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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yes very understandable @outlander 
took a while for my mum to agree , so now she has the bills payed and cash with her
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hard when they are more old fashioned huh @Shaz51
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Yes , but we have to understand too my sister @outlander how hard it was , My grandma hid her cash under the mattress because they thought the banks were ripping them off
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thats true @Shaz51 lots of patience is needed. I try to be but i think others are right that i need boundaries.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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oh yes @outlander I agree you need boundaries.my sister xx
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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When im home again ill have a read up again @Shaz51
Apart of the struggle i had last time and still do is saying no. It feels kinda wrong like im.letting everyone down or they will hate me more. They only way i seem to fit in is by saying yes to them.
Apart of the struggle i had last time and still do is saying no. It feels kinda wrong like im.letting everyone down or they will hate me more. They only way i seem to fit in is by saying yes to them.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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Hmmmm .... @outlander I hope you don't mind me dropping in but in my course on Friday we spoke about what is our 'authentic self' and basically it means that if you dont want to do something etc. you voice it politely and calmly but you don't let other people push you around. I think it is about time you voice your 'authentic self' with your family and anyoine else who feels they know you better than you do.
You seem to be the only one in your family who doesn't show their 'authentic self' .... anyway that is my few cents worth. Love the pea xxxx
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I dont mind you dropping in @Bunniekins your never intruding anyway!
Thank you for your suggestions. I started to do that too. F&H taught me abit of that i start off ok but i cant seem to maintain it.
Thank you for your suggestions. I started to do that too. F&H taught me abit of that i start off ok but i cant seem to maintain it.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander yes it is hard to do particularly with family when you are young. I am a pleaser I find it very hard to say no, I always make up a story .... a little white lie to get outof something. I can never actually say no ... 😞
