outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Truth be told @outlander, I don’t know myself yet. That’s what I’m hoping to get from therapy. I think learning about emotions is helpful. I think understanding our needs is really important and I think understanding what makes a good relationship helps. I have only been really working on my relationships in a much healthier way over the past 6 months or so I think. It’s taken so long to understand relationship dynamics. I’ve learned lots from being on here. I know you have too. I think my biggest hurdle is my relationship with myself.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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they are dreadful feelings @Sans911 i can manage them ones for a while until night like this when the come out in full force thinking id forgetten about those emotions.
the depression part is the once that worries me the most. i can mostly bring my anxiety down but i dont have control over the depression. i just seem to sink and hit the bottom and its literally a waiting game till i start floating back up as i cant find anything to help bring myself back up.
the depression part is the once that worries me the most. i can mostly bring my anxiety down but i dont have control over the depression. i just seem to sink and hit the bottom and its literally a waiting game till i start floating back up as i cant find anything to help bring myself back up.
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Lol with the girl bit @MDT 😊
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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learning about them and control the emotions would be rather helpful @Teej
i dont even know what i need either. i dont really think about it besides the basic things, housing etc. but other than that i dont really think about it.
i have learnt alot from being here, i find i learn better through others. so you and having others share experiences esp with these sorts of things is helpful. learning how others have taken steps or what helped to get through things is helpful.
i learn more about others than i do about myself, iv always taken an interest in others though so i guess its part of my 'programming' to learn from others too
i dont even know what i need either. i dont really think about it besides the basic things, housing etc. but other than that i dont really think about it.
i have learnt alot from being here, i find i learn better through others. so you and having others share experiences esp with these sorts of things is helpful. learning how others have taken steps or what helped to get through things is helpful.
i learn more about others than i do about myself, iv always taken an interest in others though so i guess its part of my 'programming' to learn from others too
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TeejSenior Contributor
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I am going to head off now @outlander, @MDT, @Sans911. Its been a great discussion. Sometimes on the forum you don’t realise there has been any personal progress until you share and then realise there are the few steps forward along with the ones back. Take care all 💜🤗
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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BPD sucks @MDT cant be true to myself if i dont even know who i am
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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goodnight @Teej thank you for sharing and helping me tonight 
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Just a quick thing @outlander. I’ve always said I don’t know what to do with my emotions. I’ve always been told I need to learn to sit with them. Being told and doing it have been two completely different things in my world. I still want to 'do' something with them, give them away, turn them off (which is my maladaptive coping mechanism). If I get into the new therapy I think I will learn that part and it scares me beyond belief.
Night 💜🤗🌙✨
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i hope your new therapy is helpful @Teej
i can only sit with the emotions for so long before they drive me up the walls. and depends on the intensity of it too. if its just niggly stuff can handle it for a while but the big ones cant handle all that well
i can only sit with the emotions for so long before they drive me up the walls. and depends on the intensity of it too. if its just niggly stuff can handle it for a while but the big ones cant handle all that well
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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You know only too well that I know how hard it is to keep going @outlander
It DOES feel like a constant roundabout, and sometimes you feel so sick and tired of it. It feels no its never going to end.
Was there any emotions you couldn't find a reason for? Because I want you to try really hard to think why you feel like this.
What I want you to do now with what you have written is look at each reason for the emotions & ask yourself 'does the reason I feel sad because of' .... Is it justified or unjustified? In other words, is there a valid reason for feeling that way for that reason.
Now this will be a little hard for you,so you might want to read the link I'm including, and perhaps leave this last exercise until tommorrow.
