outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Im sorry everyone for my outburst. It just really upsets me that i just seem to be negative. I try really hard to be positive and to do go things so i can share the positives too. It feels like forever since ive been able to share something good. I just keep asking for help. I try to deal with it myself but i dont think im doing a very good job of it
@Former-Member i dont need to pull you up on anything. I am taking on the worries of the world but i cant seem to stop them. They just keep flowing in.
I dont know what gives me reprieve and i dont seem to enjoy anything anymore even my passion for art is dissappearing. I made all these paintings and i really just feel like putting them in the bin but i think id regret it so i havent yet. I also dont have anyone to be around. Its upsetting that i cant seem to even make one friend.
Your day sounds lovely though, i think we all need some of those days. ❤
@Sans911 💜 i thought id upset you. I dont want to do that. I cant ring, the anxiety thing comes with phone calls but i guess i could email again.... but theyve given me all the resources for my area. The directories for my area and the findapsych and a few links like the one i shared here about therapists/therapy. They wont be able to help me anymore than that can they?
I can ask my gp again about a support worker hopefully she will at least be able to point me in the right direction/refferral. I dont see her for a few though.
Thank you @Shaz51 @MDT ❤
Thanks @Snowie i hate being like this. I know you get it too ❤
@Former-Member i dont need to pull you up on anything. I am taking on the worries of the world but i cant seem to stop them. They just keep flowing in.
I dont know what gives me reprieve and i dont seem to enjoy anything anymore even my passion for art is dissappearing. I made all these paintings and i really just feel like putting them in the bin but i think id regret it so i havent yet. I also dont have anyone to be around. Its upsetting that i cant seem to even make one friend.
Your day sounds lovely though, i think we all need some of those days. ❤
@Sans911 💜 i thought id upset you. I dont want to do that. I cant ring, the anxiety thing comes with phone calls but i guess i could email again.... but theyve given me all the resources for my area. The directories for my area and the findapsych and a few links like the one i shared here about therapists/therapy. They wont be able to help me anymore than that can they?
I can ask my gp again about a support worker hopefully she will at least be able to point me in the right direction/refferral. I dont see her for a few though.
Thank you @Shaz51 @MDT ❤
Thanks @Snowie i hate being like this. I know you get it too ❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Appleblossom ❤ im finding it very hard to reach out at all. I want to help more than i need to be helped. I want to get better though.
I just got a talking to about my cooking from pop. Even thats not good enough. Hes so hard to cook for. I try to make things nutritous instead of tinned things that he seems to like but i just seem to get complaints pretty much every meal i make.
Glad the dog likes my cooking at least its not wasted.
I just got a talking to about my cooking from pop. Even thats not good enough. Hes so hard to cook for. I try to make things nutritous instead of tinned things that he seems to like but i just seem to get complaints pretty much every meal i make.
Glad the dog likes my cooking at least its not wasted.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderI think we all think that at times. We feel so needy, we feel that all we do is ask for help. Others need it more. You do know how I feel this way. Yes we do ask for help, however more then often we try and deal with it ourselves so we are not 'bothering' someone else.
I think it is a great thing that you can ask for help more often than you used to, that shows a growth in you. You might not see this within yourself, but I see it. As much as I can say you help me and others on here, I also know that it is hard to believe this.
Gentle steps sweetheart, just concentrate on one thing at a time tonight. Some self soothing perhaps, a warm bath/shower, snuggle in bed with a nice warm cuddly blanket. Make tonight about you hun 
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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@outlander If pop is stuck on tins and you are upping his nutrition ... then write it off ... and stand your ground with him ... tell him he is better of, to grow up, and stop being a little boy complaining about his vegies ...
The world is often not that kind ... grown men are often immature ...
Keep reaching out Bella ...
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Unknown userMember
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Don't be sorry @outlander - it's a good thing to open up and talk about what is ailing us. And in the process we can see for ourselves what the real problems are and the type of help that would benefit us.
When our minds are full with negatives, worries and emotional pain - and this keeps churning around in our minds as you described so well - that is not giving the mind space to enjoy those things we once did. It is dominating and robbing us of any joy. Robbing us of any good in front of us. That is the first warning sign for the need to address a change in our thinking (am going through the same with worry so can relate). To address the catastrophe thinking and doom that robs us of life and inner growth. That's the first thing to deal with. And if we can't do it alone then seeking the services of a counsellor or psychologist that help change that thinking process with perhaps CBT or DBT and putting it in practice is maybe something worth exploring.
I maybe wrong @outlander - but reading your post a few times something stands out to me - you may be suffering from "loneliness". Loneliness is one of the leading causes of depression and it can happen in any age group. You have made friends here which is a good thing and shows you are more than capable of doing so, but I understand it's not the same thing as enjoying friendship in real life. Keep an eye out for any opportunities to mix with others - interest groups are usually a good place to start. Putting ourselves out there and connecting with positive caring people is important to feel happy and for self esteem. Remembering that many feel nervous or inadequate - you aren't alone. There will always be at least "one" person who we will feel comfortable with, who will talk to us. And one or two friends is enough. Harder to do and find in this day and age but not impossible. Even group therapy may be a good place to start?
When we arent well our minds will find any excuse not to pursue those things that can help us. It will find any excuse not to take up new opportunities, interests, groups and help. Don't listen to it @outlander - just do it. Truly - otherwise you will always talk yourself out of it (been there, done that).
You will eventually feel much better for it. Sometimes to create change we have to confront those demons that keep us trapped and do the opposite to what they are dictating. Take heart - you can do this and in time "life will get better". With getting help and joining groups - you will eventually find people to feel good around, who will alrreciate you and will want to be friends with you. It all starts with that first baby step......Take heart.
And talk as much as you need to here and never feel sorry for being real and reaching out for the help that is on offer - talk every day is you feel the need, as we will walk this journey with you. Sending a warm hug xx
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MDTSenior Contributor
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All good @outlander sending thoughts your way
Have you tried to perhaps join a meetup? On the app/website? In terms of making new friends that is.
In regards to your MH that is the most important thing. Just focus on that. Focus on getting the help you need whatever it might be.
Meanwhile, work with your support worker and go to find whatever you gotta find. It took me a while to get a psych I truly clicked with. It's a hard slog let's be honest.
Thanks too for your well the past day or so in light of what I been dealing with. Though you may feel like you don't have friends I think you have friends here on forums because we are all real people in the end.
Take care mate
Have you tried to perhaps join a meetup? On the app/website? In terms of making new friends that is.
In regards to your MH that is the most important thing. Just focus on that. Focus on getting the help you need whatever it might be.
Meanwhile, work with your support worker and go to find whatever you gotta find. It took me a while to get a psych I truly clicked with. It's a hard slog let's be honest.
Thanks too for your well the past day or so in light of what I been dealing with. Though you may feel like you don't have friends I think you have friends here on forums because we are all real people in the end.
Take care mate
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Oh my sweetheart @outlander. I haven't seen any negativity from you today, and you most certainly haven't upset me in any way. I've been having something to eat, and talking to some people on the phone. And also I saw no outburst either lil Sis.
You are a remarkable young woman, mature beyond your years because you have had to be. But I also see a young woman who been, seen and experienced a lot, not all of it good or helpful.
And you have done something positive recently. Your beautiful artwork.
You can't do everything yourself @outlander and you shouldn't be expected to. You've got so much to contend with. I don't know if the foundation can help, but there's no harm in asking.
Hugs my lil Sis. I understand you're feeling overwhelmed and low atm, but you matter to me so very much. You're a very important person in my life. You need to stick around sweet, because me and the world needs someone as amazing and caring as you are. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
You are a remarkable young woman, mature beyond your years because you have had to be. But I also see a young woman who been, seen and experienced a lot, not all of it good or helpful.
And you have done something positive recently. Your beautiful artwork.
You can't do everything yourself @outlander and you shouldn't be expected to. You've got so much to contend with. I don't know if the foundation can help, but there's no harm in asking.
Hugs my lil Sis. I understand you're feeling overwhelmed and low atm, but you matter to me so very much. You're a very important person in my life. You need to stick around sweet, because me and the world needs someone as amazing and caring as you are. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I am trying to find what to say. But im struggling for words. i wish the SH urges would go and the SI too. It screaming at me and apparently covering your ears doesnt make it any quieter. 😞 what do i do
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderjust take a few deep breaths. Go splash some water on your face and make yourself a cup of tea.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ok @Snowie ill go do those
