outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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rough time
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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ohhh I taged you too @Bella1978 xxx
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Pdoc Appt couldve gone better and im considering changing atm.
shes increased one of my meds and wanted to put me on one of my old Ads. . i cant believe her reason for it and i had to clarify it to make sure i understood and yep i was right- it feels like shes actually trying to make me sick that sounds bad right? she also told me not to go on sleepers either even if gp says i could. apparently it doesnt matter what i do it wont be good enough for her
the meds i was on before made me really sick, i looked like a ghost and was becoming underweight because of how fast i dropped the weight. she said you could go back on them and i said no thanks id rather not go through that again,and she said well nows the perfect time isnt it, at least youll loose weight. she asked if i was still on the weight loss tablets and i said no, havent been on them for a while now because i couldnt handle all the tablets or the sizing of that one particular tablet. . told her about my sh and the other day where i lost my stuff and wanted to end it all both the time you guys knew here and also the other days (recently) when i wasnt online and she said well thats not good and i shouldve used my coping strategies to help myself to go to the ed. . i actually asked about a peer support worker and she said i dont think you need one.
she asked about work- told her i dont have the farmhand role now just the occassional holiday work. still pops carer. not in a relationship, and no friendships made as yet, told her about the young womens group (which is now cancelled due to lack of interest from others) and also im waiting to see if the art group will be starting up but havent heard as yet.
told her about my therapist and therapy as well. not alot to say there except to keep going unless i want to stop the trauam therapy which is fine if i choose and shes not sure im ready for that yet but ive already started.
spoke of mood extremes atm, lack of sleep, and a few other things as well.
she told me i should try harder to be more social, be more proactive in loosing the weight ( i said i also have a weight management nurse who i see every few weeks and is helping me- she said oh maybe you should see her every fortnight too) and try to use my brain in the form of studying- told her i have a very short attention span so it makes it hard to study the larger course but will take a look into a shorter course (theres 2 nursing ones online that are free atm that was thinking on doing). she said thats a good idea otherwise youll just keep thinking too much. shes worried about my liver and for some reaons iron levels as well. so wants to do another blood test so will talk to gp on tuesday and will be asking for allergy testing as well. she wants me to see my gp once a week or fortnightly at least. and see her again in 5 weeks but has me in the list to come in earlier if i can get in.
ummm i think thats all- but im sure theres more......
edit- there was more but put in it the post
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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I'll come back to you soon @outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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no rush @Sans911 if i hadnt of got it out now i prob wouldve forgotten
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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@outlander It is difficult to know about the meds as we cant be specific, but the wariness about sleepers might be due to their addictiveness. Gps are able to prescribe them for short periods only, but for prolonged use they seem to turn to another class of med.
I am really sorry that your mood has been sky rocketing all over the place.
You so often are the cheery helper. 
Take care of you too.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander your pdoc sure has what seems like a strange way of working. I have my own corcerns about the way she practices.
I still think you need a support worker. It just makes sense. But I'm not privy to everything that's going on, but I feel it could benefit you a lot.
And as far as I know, trauma work or therapy should never be started until you are stable. You are definitely not. Sorry not meaning to sound harsh. I'm not stable either, and I'm definitely not ready for Trauma work.
I think you have been trying hard to do many of those things she's asked. You didn't want to go to the social group but you did and persevered. And it sounds like you doing everything you can to loose weight. I think far more concerning is your possible nutritional imbalances given how sick you have felt. I would think that was a priority first before weight loss.
There's a lot there that doesn't feel quite right. But you are the one who can walk away too. It's your life @outlander. You need people on your side, and she doesn't sound all that helpful.
You're doing all you can under the circumstances. Sure we could all do and be better but one thing at a time too
There are sleeping medicines out there much like our own sleep hormones which help to reset the sleep and rest cycle. They're only used for a few months, then they loose effectiveness.
I still think you need a support worker. It just makes sense. But I'm not privy to everything that's going on, but I feel it could benefit you a lot.
And as far as I know, trauma work or therapy should never be started until you are stable. You are definitely not. Sorry not meaning to sound harsh. I'm not stable either, and I'm definitely not ready for Trauma work.
I think you have been trying hard to do many of those things she's asked. You didn't want to go to the social group but you did and persevered. And it sounds like you doing everything you can to loose weight. I think far more concerning is your possible nutritional imbalances given how sick you have felt. I would think that was a priority first before weight loss.
There's a lot there that doesn't feel quite right. But you are the one who can walk away too. It's your life @outlander. You need people on your side, and she doesn't sound all that helpful.
You're doing all you can under the circumstances. Sure we could all do and be better but one thing at a time too
There are sleeping medicines out there much like our own sleep hormones which help to reset the sleep and rest cycle. They're only used for a few months, then they loose effectiveness.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hi @Appleblossom
I was on those sorts of meds so was under close watch at the time but the nights i was taking them ( could only take them max 3 nights a week and not on consecutive days) they would worsen my nightmares and/or i wasnt able to wake from them well at all so had to go off them. Apparently im out of other options atm.
Thanks Apple. Id rather try to be cheery. Helps perk myself up too 💞
I was on those sorts of meds so was under close watch at the time but the nights i was taking them ( could only take them max 3 nights a week and not on consecutive days) they would worsen my nightmares and/or i wasnt able to wake from them well at all so had to go off them. Apparently im out of other options atm.
Thanks Apple. Id rather try to be cheery. Helps perk myself up too 💞
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander - like Snowie my meds are kicking in. Better go before I make no sense. Goodnight lil Sis 💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I have such a loveley mh team dont i ( sarcasm there) @Sans911 she upsets me every time i go there. Apparently she is one of the best though thats why ive stayed with her.
Ive been pretty honest with her and about how im coping etc but says i dont need a support worker.
You dont sound harsh. I am far from being stable. I seem stable on the outside because thats just the way i am and i still have good or okayish days so i look ok. My psychologist thinks its a waste of time working on other things. Basically it feels like even me speaking up it wont change her mindset either. So basically both psychs think im ok to do the trauma work. I cancelled today (even without the kids ) because i cantdo the homework shes set. The thought of it sets my anxiety off and i havent even started it yet. And she thinks after my 10 sessions are up ill he fine. I think those expectations are abit unrealistic but...thats just me.
I was still going to the group except they cancelled it-not me and am looking elsewhere as well.
Honestly i feel so alot of pressure from her all the time esp the weight part. Its not the first time shes suggested me being sick is a good thing. Whne i seen her a while back and was just starting to have the stomach troubles she told me to just eat less and exercise more and take the weight loss pills. I was and still am pretty much only having one meal a day.
Starting to think a liquid diet would be better. At least itll help with the weightloss but nutrients are still there.
I dont know how to walk away @Sans911 i feel stuck but i dont know why either. Im sure theres other psychiatrists out there but i just feel stuck here.
I think i know what meds you are talking about. Ive had 2 sort. One that gaveme the nightmares as described to Apple and the other had no effect on sleep at all even afterthey increased the dose and was on it for a max time then off then back on again to try it again. None helped. The most effective thing atm is my oils. But even thats not helping atm.
Ive been pretty honest with her and about how im coping etc but says i dont need a support worker.
You dont sound harsh. I am far from being stable. I seem stable on the outside because thats just the way i am and i still have good or okayish days so i look ok. My psychologist thinks its a waste of time working on other things. Basically it feels like even me speaking up it wont change her mindset either. So basically both psychs think im ok to do the trauma work. I cancelled today (even without the kids ) because i cantdo the homework shes set. The thought of it sets my anxiety off and i havent even started it yet. And she thinks after my 10 sessions are up ill he fine. I think those expectations are abit unrealistic but...thats just me.
I was still going to the group except they cancelled it-not me and am looking elsewhere as well.
Honestly i feel so alot of pressure from her all the time esp the weight part. Its not the first time shes suggested me being sick is a good thing. Whne i seen her a while back and was just starting to have the stomach troubles she told me to just eat less and exercise more and take the weight loss pills. I was and still am pretty much only having one meal a day.
Starting to think a liquid diet would be better. At least itll help with the weightloss but nutrients are still there.
I dont know how to walk away @Sans911 i feel stuck but i dont know why either. Im sure theres other psychiatrists out there but i just feel stuck here.
I think i know what meds you are talking about. Ive had 2 sort. One that gaveme the nightmares as described to Apple and the other had no effect on sleep at all even afterthey increased the dose and was on it for a max time then off then back on again to try it again. None helped. The most effective thing atm is my oils. But even thats not helping atm.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Goodnight sis @Sans911 hanks for the distraction on the other thread too 💞💞
