outlanderSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Poor thing. Hopefully once in the other clinic/ward she will be able to settle more and get some more help. Make sure your self caring and keeping up with the walks you like too @Bella1978
A hard day here indeed. Very upsetting.
Atm im flicking on and off here with some music on. Need to try and stay upright as bad reflux is happening tonight and meds arent working as yet.
Hoping to be asleep earlier tonight. Its 130am here already and not a lot of sleepy feelings happening plus too scared to sleep atm.
A hard day here indeed. Very upsetting.
Atm im flicking on and off here with some music on. Need to try and stay upright as bad reflux is happening tonight and meds arent working as yet.
Hoping to be asleep earlier tonight. Its 130am here already and not a lot of sleepy feelings happening plus too scared to sleep atm.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I think youve face planted @Faith-and-Hope goodnight ❤
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Bella1978Senior Contributor
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@outlander
Thanks sweets, yes once mum is at the clinic I think things will start to improve but at the moment she not impressed with what's going on! Yes, I have been self caring and going for my walks. I know I need to otherwise I won't be good to anyone!
Is there anything that may comfort you to help you relax and hopefully sleep luv? You're also probably finding it hard to switch off from everything that happenned today. A lot of stuff came up for you at your therapy session.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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They can be very stubborn at times cant they! I hope she does improve though and the transfer to the other place goes well. Less pressure on you too if it goes smoothly and without alot of distress @Bella1978
Im glad your self caring you have a loveley list you shared with me the other day many i like to do too. Simple things add up dont they
Ive had my essential oil burner on for the past 2 hrs and that usually helps but not so much tonight but im not surprised really. Lots of things did come up and are bringing on quite alot of emotions and flashbacks. I worry what will happen when i close my eyes and get to sleep.
Im glad your self caring you have a loveley list you shared with me the other day many i like to do too. Simple things add up dont they
Ive had my essential oil burner on for the past 2 hrs and that usually helps but not so much tonight but im not surprised really. Lots of things did come up and are bringing on quite alot of emotions and flashbacks. I worry what will happen when i close my eyes and get to sleep.
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Bella1978Senior Contributor
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@outlander
Yes, they can be very stubborn. Actually, seeing mum this way reminds of when I was a kid - she's was a fiesty one but as she has gotten older she has mellowed a bit. But at the moment, she not so mellow. Thanks luv - I'm hoping the transfer goes smoothly too.
So true luv, simple things do add up. When mum has been hospitalised in the past I would constantly be there, all day sometimes whereas this time I'm taking some time out for myself and going in the afternoon - otherwise I will burn out like I have done before. Towards the end of last year I had mum in a mental health clinic and my sister was also in one! I was running between the two of them. I was a mess 😕
Good girl for having the essential burner - it may not be helping like it has in the past but at least you have put in on. I love lighting my candle as I find the smell very soothing and calming. Are you on your own at home? I'm just throwing ideas out here ... does colouring in help you? You like drawing dont you? I'm thinking of what else could keep you occupied but not too alert so you can hopefully drift off to sleep. It is hard though when you have so many things racing around in your head to try and sleep.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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She does sound rather fiesty @Bella1978 they are often the most amusing people.
Im not surprised you burnt out caring for 2 people so im glad youve learnt to take time out for yourself too. It gives you a break too. The nurses and drs etc are there to help care for your mum too.
Yep im.at home alone for the next few nights. Ive been known to scrub the floors at 3am because i cant sleep. I dont have the energy for that atm.
I do like colouring and have a page out with some pencils as well as a journal and a worry box as well that i can use.
Its not always the thoughts that keep.me up its the nightmares and i get visions such as a dog walking up to me while in bed and it scares the crap out of me. ( my trauma was a dog attack and as its now good friday it happened today a few yrs ago) At least while im awake i can control it a little thr oils are helping abit as i can focus on that smell but i dont like leaving it on i do t trust the timer so i wait till im abit more sleepy then turn it off. The music helps too.
Im not surprised you burnt out caring for 2 people so im glad youve learnt to take time out for yourself too. It gives you a break too. The nurses and drs etc are there to help care for your mum too.
Yep im.at home alone for the next few nights. Ive been known to scrub the floors at 3am because i cant sleep. I dont have the energy for that atm.
I do like colouring and have a page out with some pencils as well as a journal and a worry box as well that i can use.
Its not always the thoughts that keep.me up its the nightmares and i get visions such as a dog walking up to me while in bed and it scares the crap out of me. ( my trauma was a dog attack and as its now good friday it happened today a few yrs ago) At least while im awake i can control it a little thr oils are helping abit as i can focus on that smell but i dont like leaving it on i do t trust the timer so i wait till im abit more sleepy then turn it off. The music helps too.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Oh geez please forgive me with the spelling mistakes and the overuse of the word too!
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Bella1978Senior Contributor
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@outlander
So true about the doctors and nurses being there for mum, and they are looking after her. The nurses know me by name haha ... they are lovely which is reassuring.
When my mum can't sleep she gets up and cooks lol ... no complaints from me though as she is an awesome cook! I, on the other hand, get up and eat ... not so good for the waistine.
What is a worry box?
I can understand what you are saying re: having control when you are awake. Definitely turn off the oil burner before you sleep. Has the therapist given you some coping strategies when you have the nightmares and visions, ie like meditation, mindfulness? Yep, I enjoy listening to music too 🙂
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Lol as long as it tastes good! @Bella1978
Im not sure how others ise a worry box but for me i have smaller cards and on each i write down one worry per card. Its like storing the issue away for thr moment. Im only allowed to have that worry for a short time and i often journal my thoughts around it so help clear my mind. I havent used it for a while but ive always got it there .
No she hasnt helped me with that. She doesnt want to waste time on asking how im coping and working on strategies. I need to learn them without her so ive got quite a few and some lovele memebers here have been a HUGE help with my learning and managing to cope. Im not sure i would be alive without these people here.
Music helps with everything i find and a song/s for any occasion
Im not sure how others ise a worry box but for me i have smaller cards and on each i write down one worry per card. Its like storing the issue away for thr moment. Im only allowed to have that worry for a short time and i often journal my thoughts around it so help clear my mind. I havent used it for a while but ive always got it there .
No she hasnt helped me with that. She doesnt want to waste time on asking how im coping and working on strategies. I need to learn them without her so ive got quite a few and some lovele memebers here have been a HUGE help with my learning and managing to cope. Im not sure i would be alive without these people here.
Music helps with everything i find and a song/s for any occasion
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Sans911 have me the idea of the worry box and helped me with that so the credit goes to her for that one
