outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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My darling @outlander, you have done nothing wrong , and you are here today , now it is time to take a big breath and take care of yourself
Last few days are gone , you can not change that , but now is the time to go forward , no need to be ashamed or guilty
Last time my Mr shaz ended up in hospital , his anxiety and MI exploded to the point that he did not know what started his breakdown , so by the time i got to the hospital , the MI team were all blaming me
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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i dont really know what to do from here--- Forward @outlander and learning , inproving you self care list and putting in place what to do next time when you start feeling like you did at the beginning
I am trying to get Mr shaz to tell me what`s wrong at the beginning instead of letting it build up
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Shaz51im scared of what im becoming. Its really upsetting me. I know I cant change what happened and I can only change the future but Shaz im scared of what the future might hold. I dont know if im strong enough to get through this. Im tired mentally and physically. I just want it all to stop.
When I started to notice more of a change I done what I normally did except go crazy on supports. Im find it really hard to ask for help even from my friends here. Its the reason I stopped talking. I dont like struggling and asking for help and its making me upset.
And its not your fault at all, and im sorry the blame was put on you. People esp those that need carers are often the most stubborn ones. 
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander please my beautiful lil Sis. Stop apologising to us for all your assumed wrong doings. Good grief sweetie it takes a really strong person to admit we are defeated. And you did anyway. A little too late, but better late than never. You so need professional support which you've never had. You know, yesterday I ran away from the hospital yesterday and my foster sister pleaded with to call the police. And I did. But I can't tell how hard that was. And then to have to sit in car with a man half my age with a a gun, teaser and handcuffs. So difficult; you have no idea. You are 100‰ successful at surviving. I'm proud of you @outlander. It takes a brave, yet vulnerable person who says help, I can't do this any more. And yes, it takes huge amounts of trust to out yourself in the hands of others to take care of you. But they're not all bad. Some really care. Let them guide and support you. We live you like family. You mean the absolute world to us. You need to be here as much as we are and deserve live, support and understanding. We only want the best for you so can be in a better place ok. You are so lived and thought about frequently even when you're not here. It's been a difficult week of missing people
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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im scared of what the future might hold. I dont know if im strong enough to get through this.-- everyone has worries about the furture @outlander, even me
so is why one step at a time , one day at a time my friend
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Hello @Sans911, how are you today xx
have you got any tips for @outlander to go forward , she is unsure what to do next to go forward
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander@Shaz51 Totally agree with Shaz51 you have no reason to feel ashamed period. Time to move forward outlander.You cannot change the past but you cannot let it define you whatever people say or think about you or the negative thoughts that creep into your mind at night ... just remember you are a unique individual who is a wonderful woman.
Believe me I know from first hand experience you just cannot sit and let it envelope you like a shroud. YOu are too good for that. xx
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander @Shaz51 I don't want to overwhelm her Shaz. And I don't want to make her think I'm ticking her off. My concern comes from the love in my heart.
Moving forward, it's one moment, one step at a time. Breathe, learn from what happened. Learn to trust even if trust has been failed before. Keep looking for that special nugget that is rare and precious. There out there. Hard to find sometimes, but they're around. Try to not repeat old patterns and put yourself first. It's hard when you care for others. But you can't give the best of yourself if you're not well enough.
Moving forward, it's one moment, one step at a time. Breathe, learn from what happened. Learn to trust even if trust has been failed before. Keep looking for that special nugget that is rare and precious. There out there. Hard to find sometimes, but they're around. Try to not repeat old patterns and put yourself first. It's hard when you care for others. But you can't give the best of yourself if you're not well enough.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@Sans911 My heart goes out to you for yesterday xxx re: police
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Spot on @Sans911
