outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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how are you guys doing? @Former-Member@Sans911@Former-Member and everyone passing through
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@outlandersounds like a productive day today. I am glad that today has been better that yesterday for you.
Chatting to the psych tomorrow sounds like a good first step and hopfully from that you can gauge if you think she will be good for you or not.
Least it is cool enough to sit outside with a nice breeze. Sounds like a bit of self caring happening.
I did read you are getting a bit more sleep which is good for you. 
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@Sans911how are you today? What you been up to?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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hopefully this therapist will be able to help me @Former-Member i really didnt want to go back to therapy at all, but of late its really proving that i should be in therapy even with little options so fingers crossed. it been so hot lately but the evenings are starting to cool which is nice. its not usually this quiet, our neighbours have kids and they are forever yelling and screaming all hrs of the day and night as kids do but my god i wish they would shush for a while. they have gone out so its nice and quiet. the mossies are starting to come out though so im back inside. yes some of that sleeps was intentionally forced but i think these new meds im on that are still being increased really die everything down as im lacking alot of energy more so than usual
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@outlanderI think it is a very wise and sensible choice to look into seeing someone again. Sometimes admitting that we need that extra help is half the battle.
I am glad you got some nice time outside in the quiet, but yes, mozzies ugh!
It is tricky to get the meds right between helping and hindering and that balance is super hard to do.
You are doing such a great job lately of trying to work through things sis, well done sweetie.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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ive been looking for a bit but i just contantly get into those states where i just dont want to talk about it or i think i can just do it myself, which i know isnt the case however i do have a stubbon streak that gets me into trouble. so am going in with an open mind and really am tryng to make this time work. i know that ill eventually have to go into the past but one step at a time hey.
i dont really like the med changes however i am much more concerned about the constant weight gain and my pysical ailments too. so am staying on anti-psychotics and the mood stabilisers however increasing both of them and slowly reducing the anti-depressants not helping the cause of weight loss. so while its rough atm im hoping that in the long term itll help both mentally and physically as well.
thank you sis how are you going tonight? @Former-Member
@Sans911i can see your likes , id really like to know how your going please ( i even used my manners)
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@outlanderI know how hard it is to go into the past. I know I am not ready for that and my psych is not pushing it. Remember you have the control and power. If you are not ready for that, then you have a right to say "no I am not ready yet".
I am ok @outlander. Had two very yucky phone calls today which I made one but the other one came out of the blue and has derailed me a bit tonight. I will be ok.
@Sans911I hope you are ok sis
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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yeh i know, i dont know whats worse trying to be ok and then going into it or getting into it while not being ok and getting it over and done with @Former-Member i have no idea so will see what this new psych says hey.
sorry to hear about those yukky phone calls, hopefully things will get abit better for you soon and you wont have to make yukky or recieve yukky phone calls
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@outlandersomething interesting my psych said was that he wanted me stable and my coping skiils in place before we start looking into my past trauma. I kind of agree with him. But he did say that it was my choice when we start so that is what I am saying to you too.
Seek guidance from your psych, but it is your choice at the end of the day. Yes hopefully no more yukky phone calls.
Wnat to hear something gross? Well I am going to tell you anyway!
Izzy just brought a rabbits leg in from the backyard somewhere. Ewwww it still had fur attached to it. Looks like a fox left behind some leftovers!!!
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Oh @Former-Member that is gross but its funny! She wants to share it with you lol.
I think the main concern with this new psych is how judemental she is, her manner, if shes listening and hearing what im saying and pushyness. I have been to a psych and we talked on the phone and she was nice and i went to her on the first appt and ahe was so arrogant, we had to walk through 2 doors to get to her office ad she pretty much walked in first and then let the door shut in my face. I mean i kept the door open with my hand but she had no people skills. She was very rushy even though i had 50 minutes with her and she gets paid full and ahe made me so nervous that i could barely get words out and instead of helping me get the words out ' she snapped and said i cant help you unless you speak. I made my session end and never went back.
Then another one hmm how do i explain it. Have you ever seen freaky friday where the mum and daughter switch bodies and the daughter has to go to the therapy sessions as the therapist and ahes drawing on her notebook occassionally looking at me and says how do you feel about that. Thats how it was.
The first one i went to was really good- the original first psych i ever seen. However after a few sessions i talked to mum about something she said- i need to take a break. Those were the first things she said to me. I shouldve listened then but i copped it off mum and it made me shut down to her and she also admitted to me that she thinks my situation needs someone with more training in dbt (before i was even diagnosed with any mh issues) ao those other 2 the areogant ones were dbt therapists and nope not going back to them. Then i found the one i really wanted to see again but is on maternity leave. I took a break after that and my mother gave me an ultimatum of if you dont see the psych i pick for you then i wont believe you. I caved straight away and it was the crappy decision. In all 20 odd hrs of therapy maybe more with her i am still no further along.
This time i am going to a psych because i think i need to ( basically back where i started- i admitted i needed help and sought it out by myself originally a yr ago) and dont care what my mother thinks im not changing.
I think the main concern with this new psych is how judemental she is, her manner, if shes listening and hearing what im saying and pushyness. I have been to a psych and we talked on the phone and she was nice and i went to her on the first appt and ahe was so arrogant, we had to walk through 2 doors to get to her office ad she pretty much walked in first and then let the door shut in my face. I mean i kept the door open with my hand but she had no people skills. She was very rushy even though i had 50 minutes with her and she gets paid full and ahe made me so nervous that i could barely get words out and instead of helping me get the words out ' she snapped and said i cant help you unless you speak. I made my session end and never went back.
Then another one hmm how do i explain it. Have you ever seen freaky friday where the mum and daughter switch bodies and the daughter has to go to the therapy sessions as the therapist and ahes drawing on her notebook occassionally looking at me and says how do you feel about that. Thats how it was.
The first one i went to was really good- the original first psych i ever seen. However after a few sessions i talked to mum about something she said- i need to take a break. Those were the first things she said to me. I shouldve listened then but i copped it off mum and it made me shut down to her and she also admitted to me that she thinks my situation needs someone with more training in dbt (before i was even diagnosed with any mh issues) ao those other 2 the areogant ones were dbt therapists and nope not going back to them. Then i found the one i really wanted to see again but is on maternity leave. I took a break after that and my mother gave me an ultimatum of if you dont see the psych i pick for you then i wont believe you. I caved straight away and it was the crappy decision. In all 20 odd hrs of therapy maybe more with her i am still no further along.
This time i am going to a psych because i think i need to ( basically back where i started- i admitted i needed help and sought it out by myself originally a yr ago) and dont care what my mother thinks im not changing.
