outlanderSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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and... here we go again....
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Hey @outlander
I hope you get somewhere with it all. Trust yourself my friend.
I hope you get somewhere with it all. Trust yourself my friend.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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The best approach I found was to adopt only one main (fight circuit breaker) strategy but apply it repeatedly. That way it was easier for me to remember what to do when under duress and easier for them to see consequences and start to put 2 and 2 together about their own behaviours. There can always be a new and different excuse that can confuse things. Keep things as simple as possible to gradually clear up the mess.
Hugs Bella
I had a terrible situation with my 2 young girls of a simillar age. REALLY the best approach is when another adult is working with you to manage the behaviour. SO if that is not happening then the other adults are dropping the ball, no matter how hard they are working at some other super important job.
It is sad and not necessary, but unfortunately it happens far too much. People can get along, Animals can get along.
It is why I do not like cute things as I found it very uncute, where the dad found it cute. The girls are still at odds and rarely speak. It breaks my heart.
2 days ago a young neighbour gave me her baby and I loved resting and cuddling with him. That helped.
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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@outlander 💜💕💜💕💜☕️☕️☕️
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Maggie 💕💕
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Morning @outlander. Just calling by to see how you're doing this morning as I notice you around. Hugs ❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Morning @CheerBear ❤
Im pretty tired, i havent slept to much. It took a while for the adrenaline of last nights events to pass and felt like a long time before the fire was out.
Have woken up in quite abit of pain though in my kidneys and stomach again so hoping its not an infection but rather the usual pain associated with different parts of my cycle.
I know your having a rough time too. I dont really have much to contribute in that area but im glad others understand more. Here with listening 👀and 👂though and sending lots of 🦄🌈🦄🌈
Im pretty tired, i havent slept to much. It took a while for the adrenaline of last nights events to pass and felt like a long time before the fire was out.
Have woken up in quite abit of pain though in my kidneys and stomach again so hoping its not an infection but rather the usual pain associated with different parts of my cycle.
I know your having a rough time too. I dont really have much to contribute in that area but im glad others understand more. Here with listening 👀and 👂though and sending lots of 🦄🌈🦄🌈
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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I missed last night's events, if you posted about them @outlander. It sounds hard though. Adrenaline can definitely make sleep not a thing 😏 Sorry you're in pain. When do you go back to find out if there's anything that can help with that?
Thanks outlander. My rough time is sad, stressed, alone, angry, tired, loss, grief, guilty feeling, run down and out... etc. I reckon you do understand that ❤ Listening eyes (and rainbows and unicorns) are very helpful and appreciated.
Thanks outlander. My rough time is sad, stressed, alone, angry, tired, loss, grief, guilty feeling, run down and out... etc. I reckon you do understand that ❤ Listening eyes (and rainbows and unicorns) are very helpful and appreciated.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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About 1230 oclock last night a fire broke out at the back of our house so went and helped move horses to a safer paddock. Pjs and all 😬 no one or the horses were hurt just scared but easy to open gates and let them run to the opposite paddock.
The owners were there so i got to leave. The fireys (4 trucks) got it contained quickly but took awhile to get out properly cause of the winds @CheerBear
Was pretty scary. I got there pretty much the same time as the firefighters.
I go back to find out test results and what the best way forward is on the 20th. Hes said possibly a form of contraception may help and given 3 options but im not sure yet. Theres one option that might suit. It wont be obvious to anyone else as its hidden within so to speak so i wont have to be so consious about hiding it. He has given me a prescrption pain relief just to use during periods for now so thats help in that department and hopefully make walking possible 😏Will have to see about the changes in the cells are and what the other tests show first and go from there.
Im thinking i might wait till after the op before starting anything else though in case it causes reactions. Itll only be an extra month so i think i can live with that.
Mm yes i think i can relate to that CB. They are tricky and overwhelming emotions esp when they are blended together. Can you do something nice and easy going today? Something to soothe the soul a little?
Lots of 💕
The owners were there so i got to leave. The fireys (4 trucks) got it contained quickly but took awhile to get out properly cause of the winds @CheerBear
Was pretty scary. I got there pretty much the same time as the firefighters.
I go back to find out test results and what the best way forward is on the 20th. Hes said possibly a form of contraception may help and given 3 options but im not sure yet. Theres one option that might suit. It wont be obvious to anyone else as its hidden within so to speak so i wont have to be so consious about hiding it. He has given me a prescrption pain relief just to use during periods for now so thats help in that department and hopefully make walking possible 😏Will have to see about the changes in the cells are and what the other tests show first and go from there.
Im thinking i might wait till after the op before starting anything else though in case it causes reactions. Itll only be an extra month so i think i can live with that.
Mm yes i think i can relate to that CB. They are tricky and overwhelming emotions esp when they are blended together. Can you do something nice and easy going today? Something to soothe the soul a little?
Lots of 💕
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Oh wow @outlander. That is a big adrenaline one. How scary for you!
It's good you have some options to consider to help maybe. I've tried all options including ones hidden within and they all have their good and not-so-good for me. Mine was stopped on Monday as the benefits weren't worth it anymore. I will now feel the effect of that but it's better this way for me I think. Watch there be some days each month that I regret this choice though 😉🤯😆 It's so much of a unique response for everyone and I know plenty of people find something out there that helps. It sucks a lot to go through it though. Big hugs.
I have a day where I need to get the house sorted out. Our weeks are so jumbly now and the house is seeing the impact of that. I'm not settled unless it's more organised than chaotic (or more organised chaos I guess) so it's a must today. I've been set a challenge to make a Falkor the Luck Dragon and dusting off the crochet hooks might be a soul soothing reward later. I also just spoke to mum who encouraged me to stay home tonight if I wanted/needed to which was reassuring and felt good. Little relief there and some pressure (that I put on myself) off.
It's good you have some options to consider to help maybe. I've tried all options including ones hidden within and they all have their good and not-so-good for me. Mine was stopped on Monday as the benefits weren't worth it anymore. I will now feel the effect of that but it's better this way for me I think. Watch there be some days each month that I regret this choice though 😉🤯😆 It's so much of a unique response for everyone and I know plenty of people find something out there that helps. It sucks a lot to go through it though. Big hugs.
I have a day where I need to get the house sorted out. Our weeks are so jumbly now and the house is seeing the impact of that. I'm not settled unless it's more organised than chaotic (or more organised chaos I guess) so it's a must today. I've been set a challenge to make a Falkor the Luck Dragon and dusting off the crochet hooks might be a soul soothing reward later. I also just spoke to mum who encouraged me to stay home tonight if I wanted/needed to which was reassuring and felt good. Little relief there and some pressure (that I put on myself) off.
