outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Its hard @Appleblossom i fins it abit embarrassing that irs coming down to the point where im more mature then my own mother. I didnt sign up for being a mum but irs the role im in now. I can see many flaws within the family unit and in my right mind i am thinking about sitting them all down and chatting with me. The stress of the constant arguments is going to ki** me long before my time if changes dont start being made. I dont really ever think its going to be 'the right time' to have this convo so might be worth just biting the bullet before i have my op otherwise its just going to be another thing ill be worrying about or another thing to do whem im recovered.
Pops been going all night and its making me feel sick. Its not what i need right now. I have to many other things to worry bout so looks like im going to have to grow up faster and talk and let them talk. Get it out on the table and work out ways to move forward.
Pops been going all night and its making me feel sick. Its not what i need right now. I have to many other things to worry bout so looks like im going to have to grow up faster and talk and let them talk. Get it out on the table and work out ways to move forward.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Hearing you about your mother ... but then ... not sure what her whole experience is... or how to get her attention to take your situation seriously.
@outlander When we are caught in the caring role, it may never be the right time for them to listen to our needs. There can be endless excuses and reasons, but maybe find a way to limit your exposure to the arguments. We cant control them but can you refuse to pay attention or (be in the same room if they are misbehaving??). A lot can depend on the physical layout, given that things are safe. The girls need to learn to value your time and attention, so be more stingy with it ...???
I am really not good at getting my needs met ... so ... in the dark ... but hearing that this is IMPORTANT ... especially with your op coming up ... best if they get their act togther now.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Appleblossom i dont think its very good for them to be constantly arguing over pathetic things so its abit more then my needs too. From someone who is close to them but away enough to see the sitution from the outside if i point out what i can see then maybe itll be clearer to them too.
Its just so much unnecessary stress on us all.
Its just so much unnecessary stress on us all.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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I think you are very mature @outlander
With all you deal with in your MH and also your family scenario.
I think you have the ability to be upfront with them. You are no fool.
We are here to support you in your life.
It takes a lot to be the better person. But is it's own reward.
With all you deal with in your MH and also your family scenario.
I think you have the ability to be upfront with them. You are no fool.
We are here to support you in your life.
It takes a lot to be the better person. But is it's own reward.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Hearing you @outlander
It will be in their best interests to work out calmer way of being together. It is really sad and a waste of time and energy. Sometimes distraction and entertainment can help, but if the bickering is habitual it may need a circuit breaker and they need to see how silly it is. Removing the "reward" of your attention ... is one strategy.
Need to go to bed .... so hugs and talk later.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @MDT no easy feat but hopefuly for thr best
Thanks @Appleblossom yeah i think its time for that circuit breaker. They dont communicate then when one does something wrong its an argument instead of talking. Thats what they arent seeing.
Hope you can get some sleep tonight
Thanks @Appleblossom yeah i think its time for that circuit breaker. They dont communicate then when one does something wrong its an argument instead of talking. Thats what they arent seeing.
Hope you can get some sleep tonight
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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@outlander Just read back over yesterday. 😩😖😩😖😩 What a day, though I suspect you have many of them. I’m dropping off warm, kind thoughts, unhelpful I know. But I am thinking of you, hoping for change.
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MolliexSenior Contributor
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Hi @outlander I hope you were able to get some sleep and are feeling OK today 🌸⭐🌿🌻
Good luck with your psych today @Former-Member, I'm also seeing mine today💕🌻
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Thanks @Molliex 😀
I really hope your psych apt goes well too. 💖
Good morning @outlander . I am happy to read the productive discussion you had with @Appleblossom last night. You have some things to work on now.
Waves to @Maggie 💕
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Maggie your never unhelpful, just you being here is helpful 
Morning @Molliex and @Former-Member I hope your psych sessions goes well today and can get some things off your chest. I am dreading the day but I still have much to do so I have to face it whether I want to or not 🤦♀️
Morning also @CheerBear @Appleblossom @Snowie @MDT
hoping there is some good in your days
Morning @Molliex and @Former-Member I hope your psych sessions goes well today and can get some things off your chest. I am dreading the day but I still have much to do so I have to face it whether I want to or not 🤦♀️
Morning also @CheerBear @Appleblossom @Snowie @MDT
hoping there is some good in your days
