outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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I know it's way, way easier said than done @outlander but sitting and talking with them might help. Not talking to fix things but talking to say that you've had enough for now. Maybe even letting them know that it is causing you stress and although you care about them, for now you need time out from things like this that don't involve you. I'm not sure if that could help or if that's something you feel up to doing, but I know sometimes it's helped me to say a kind of "I'm out" when it's stuff that isn't mine to have thrown at me. Again, way easier said than done maybe.
I wish things were a bit easier with your family for you. You've got a lot to manage as it is.
I wish things were a bit easier with your family for you. You've got a lot to manage as it is.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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I'm super tired and am heading off for now @outlander. Hope you find some peace from it all.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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it probably would be worth talking to them @CheerBear but it makes it kind of hard when I worry about how itll affect them too and how to work out a way that doesn't make it seem like its all their fault either or like I don't care.
even the youngest siblings atm has this thing where if I don't want to do something the comment is 'you don't care anyway' so its making it really hard
even the youngest siblings atm has this thing where if I don't want to do something the comment is 'you don't care anyway' so its making it really hard
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thanks for your help @CheerBear
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Unknown userMember
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Sorry I didnt have anything to contribute @outlander . Tried, but nothing there. Glad you had @CheerBear to chat to. 😀
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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its ok @Former-Member i wouldn't have to much advice either if i was trying to think of something. this situation is really hard to be stuck in
are you going ok?
are you going ok?
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Unknown userMember
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Not sure really. I think so @outlander . I see my psych tomorrow. Probably a good thing.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member i get the 'i think so but don't really know' its tricky to sit with. i hope your psych is helpful tomorrow even if she (?) just listens
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Appleblossom 💕
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Hugs @outlander
You have already been very patient about reaching out and being in caring roles for younger and older family members. It is only fair that they know when they are seriously "stretching the friendship". Even a 4 or a 6 year old can have differnt levels of mature and caring responses for those in their worlds. I have often seen really loving caring behaviours from young people. IMO sometimes we give littlies too many excuses and they get stuck in a rut of selfishness. I saw so many examples of littlies fantastic behaviour and caring for others when I was in the orphanages. Not that you can demand a change from really young ones, but you can try use "I statements", and give them the opportunity to be decent , and to grow up a little. Failing that use the least energy in entertainment and take care of your honest needs before their higher level needs ... eg entertainment ... helping them learn impulse control ... is all part of the things they need to learn ... to function as human beings.
