outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
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Dearest L'il @outlander
I do apologise for not being around much the past few days. I have been reading along when I can and have seen that others have provided their usual care and wonderful advice. @Sans911 @Appleblossom
Sorry to read that you are likely experiencing some carers burnout. Its a hard one to deal with, because we all try to do our absolute best for the ones we care for, and its really difficult to find the time for ourselves in the process. When we feel we are failing in any way, we tend to take it out on ourselves, beat ourselves up about it, feel we are not good enough. This is not the case at all. Its really really important that you stand your ground and not take on any extra family responsibilities. Be strong and ensure you still have a few small windows in your days to spend on your own wellbeing.
Regarding seeing two different GPs, I dont think its a problem at all. My regular GP is a male Dr and I have been seeing him now for 10 years all up. However there are a few occasions where I see another Dr within the same practice. The reasons can be anything from unavailability of my regular GP to needing to have a pap smear. Argh ... that was a failure I dont wish to revisit! But my regular GP is the practice owner and is hard to get in to see, so if I need an urgent appointment, I sometimes need to see another GP. I gather that the 2 GPs you are now seeing are from different practices. But as @Sans911 pointed out, your records are transferrable, and this is not a problem at all. The only thing medical practices may be a little cautious about is the practice of 'shopping around' for restricted medications. Which is much more difficult to do now, as chemists have all the records to ensure it doesnt happen. If you have a GP who you have been seeing for a long time, which for you would be since you were a young girl, then it can be a definite positive to see another to gain a new perspective to your diagnoses and treatments.
Hoping you have a good day sweetie.
Sherry 🌺
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hi @Former-Member 
thankyou, and its ok. I know when its tough its hard to support others as well. You come first
In a way im not surprised about the burnout, being a carer for pop is tough but also having the extra family repsonsibilities on top is abit much but not really avoidable. I agree with you that when we feel we are failing we tend to be hard on ourselves and lots of those sorts of emotions pop up too like the guilt etc. F&H gave a few good suggestions I can try out since they dont take long and sometimes simple is best and often the only thing manageable rather than the longer periods of times.
Yeah the 2 gps im seeing atm are in 2 separate clinics. Ive been to this clinic before but it was for things like having the flu and needing atibiotics or those sorts of one off style things but ive stuck with this clinic for a few weeks now while they are taking a look into my physical health. I guess there isnt really a problem with doing this. Im definently not shopping around so I guess its nothing to worry about. The original reason I went to see this new gp was for a second opinion on my heart but they discovered something else that needs investigating. My regular gp whose at the other clinic ive been seeing for about 3 years (on and off as she went on leave for about a yr so was tossed around between other gps at that practice) from when I was first started asking for help with my mental health. I think im just overthinking things atm too.
Ive got a stomach bug and have been up most of the night running backwards and forwards to the bathroom. I was feeling abit off colour yesterday so I guess that was the start of it. Ive had abit of water today but im not up for much else atm. Even water makes me feel sick today. Ive taken up residence on the couch with some movies and prob just hang around here for abit.
thankyou, and its ok. I know when its tough its hard to support others as well. You come first
In a way im not surprised about the burnout, being a carer for pop is tough but also having the extra family repsonsibilities on top is abit much but not really avoidable. I agree with you that when we feel we are failing we tend to be hard on ourselves and lots of those sorts of emotions pop up too like the guilt etc. F&H gave a few good suggestions I can try out since they dont take long and sometimes simple is best and often the only thing manageable rather than the longer periods of times.
Yeah the 2 gps im seeing atm are in 2 separate clinics. Ive been to this clinic before but it was for things like having the flu and needing atibiotics or those sorts of one off style things but ive stuck with this clinic for a few weeks now while they are taking a look into my physical health. I guess there isnt really a problem with doing this. Im definently not shopping around so I guess its nothing to worry about. The original reason I went to see this new gp was for a second opinion on my heart but they discovered something else that needs investigating. My regular gp whose at the other clinic ive been seeing for about 3 years (on and off as she went on leave for about a yr so was tossed around between other gps at that practice) from when I was first started asking for help with my mental health. I think im just overthinking things atm too.
Ive got a stomach bug and have been up most of the night running backwards and forwards to the bathroom. I was feeling abit off colour yesterday so I guess that was the start of it. Ive had abit of water today but im not up for much else atm. Even water makes me feel sick today. Ive taken up residence on the couch with some movies and prob just hang around here for abit.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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morning also @Appleblossom @Sans911 and all passing through
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Unknown userMember
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Ewww ... not good re the tummy bug @outlander
An enforced rest however, is probably a good thing. Make the most of the chance to rest up. I hope you have a few good movies at your fingertips? Both ginger and peppermint is good for a tummy upset. Anything in the cupboards?
Sherry 🌸
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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yeh its yuk @Former-Member i was suppose to be working today but i had to contact her at 9 last night when i realised it was more then just feeling abit off colour. my bp is up rather high today (higher then my already abnornally high bp 😕) too and hoping it doesnt keep creeping up.
ive got some movies that i can watch. im getting abit sick of these ones though. i really need to upgrade. i cant afford netflix but that would be handy to have. im watching modern family atm but im on the last series so ill have to find something else to watch in another hr or so. i may end up going to the bedroom and hooking the dvd player up in there. pops at home today as well and he was already starting at 9 this morning. not really wanting to be around him or others today- hes expecting visitors for his birthday so might be better off in the bedroom.
i dont really stock anything ginger or peppermint but ive got abit of soup and can make some toast. ive managed to stomach a cup of tea which is better then last night but i wont speak too soon 😬:face_with_rolling_eyes:
ive got some movies that i can watch. im getting abit sick of these ones though. i really need to upgrade. i cant afford netflix but that would be handy to have. im watching modern family atm but im on the last series so ill have to find something else to watch in another hr or so. i may end up going to the bedroom and hooking the dvd player up in there. pops at home today as well and he was already starting at 9 this morning. not really wanting to be around him or others today- hes expecting visitors for his birthday so might be better off in the bedroom.
i dont really stock anything ginger or peppermint but ive got abit of soup and can make some toast. ive managed to stomach a cup of tea which is better then last night but i wont speak too soon 😬:face_with_rolling_eyes:
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i read about your situation too @Former-Member i dont have much advice to offer but im here and listening with an open ear. id offer you a hug or a shoulder but i dont want to pass anything onto you!
have you got much on today? hows little holly?
have you got much on today? hows little holly?
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Unknown userMember
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@outlander
Black tea, no milk. Peppermint tea would be good if you had some. And anything ginger .. Even ginger chocolate. 😋
We have Foxtel here, a bit of a luxury.
The hug and shoulder to cry on is appreciated. Protection from your tummy bug provided by the NBN. And my computer has good virus protection. 😷 So I should be okay. 😄
Quiet day today. Hubby conciliatory. Holly is good. Took her for a walk around the paddock this morning. Had fun sniffing out rabbits. Very mild day here, warm after some light rain yesterday. Should get more today and next few days too. Need it, its so dry.
Best go. Will check in later.
Sherry
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i dont have much milk anyway @Former-Member so i think ive got that covered. we use to have austar when my nan was still here but that was mostly for the games. we use to play a rabbit game for hrs on end.
im ok with not having anything fancy, everything comes out on dvd eventually. im going to get my afterpay things paid off and then do an upgrade of dvd i think. i havent really upgraded for yonks or the movies i buy are still older cause they are cheap but i havent watched it so kinda works out.
ok well since your well protected you can have as many hugs as you like and my shoulders avaliable too.
shes a cutie. its funny how the smallest and petite dogs think they are very tough when usually they are far from that lol. glad she had fun sniffing out rabbits.
oh we badly need rain here too. its so dry!
im ok with not having anything fancy, everything comes out on dvd eventually. im going to get my afterpay things paid off and then do an upgrade of dvd i think. i havent really upgraded for yonks or the movies i buy are still older cause they are cheap but i havent watched it so kinda works out.
ok well since your well protected you can have as many hugs as you like and my shoulders avaliable too.
shes a cutie. its funny how the smallest and petite dogs think they are very tough when usually they are far from that lol. glad she had fun sniffing out rabbits.
oh we badly need rain here too. its so dry!
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member I think you meant to tag @outlander in this post above
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Unknown userMember
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Thanks @Sans911 ... you're right!
She got it anyway. Sorry guys, I hit the wrong key on my little mobile phone. Fat fingers.
