outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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Unknown userMember
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@outlanderI don't think we having the answers hun and unfortunately we cannot look into the future to see what is coming. It would be so much easier if we could.
All we can do is continue to try and get better ourselves (whatever that looks like) and keep hope that those friendships can develop.
You are however taking steps in the right direction. You have joined a group which is great. That is all you can ask from yourself for now.
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Unknown userMember
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@Former-Memberthink it might be another long night here. How are you going?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Im trying to be postive. I still really want to do the groups despite being nervous. @Zoe7 how do i not let my personality affect others or rather let my better side come out instead of the crap covering it. I really dont have very good social skills and have only had toxic relationships.
Im trying really hard to work on all aspects of my life and this one has to be the hardest so far.
Im trying really hard to work on all aspects of my life and this one has to be the hardest so far.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I really do want to make a better life @Former-Member or trying to anyway. I just hope the group goes ok. I do still want to go
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Unknown userMember
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@Former-Member i feel awkward saying how i honestly feel on someone else post i kinda feel like its not my place....i am sorry that you may be in for another long night, i hope you manage to do something relaxing for yourself, remember be kind to your self.
@outlander it can be hard to have healthy relationships when you are unsure what they actually are. I had to learn the had way sometimes i have to set boundries for myself to help me build what i hope are possitive relationship, its bloody hard its still hard now but i have been told the more i do it the easier it will become (i am not sure about that statment yet) sorry if im just rambling rubish, hope im not outa line. Be kind to you self outlander ❤❤
@outlander it can be hard to have healthy relationships when you are unsure what they actually are. I had to learn the had way sometimes i have to set boundries for myself to help me build what i hope are possitive relationship, its bloody hard its still hard now but i have been told the more i do it the easier it will become (i am not sure about that statment yet) sorry if im just rambling rubish, hope im not outa line. Be kind to you self outlander ❤❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Your welcome to talk here @Former-Member whereever you would like really. I dont mind as long as your asking for support when you need it. And nope your not out of line at all.
Do you mind me asking what sort of boundaries you mean in order to make positive relationships?
Do you mind me asking what sort of boundaries you mean in order to make positive relationships?
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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You talk about the 'crap' covering your better side @outlander - that there is a negative mindset. Remember what I wrote the other day - what has happened to you doesn't define you - when you are constantly referring to all the toxic relationships you have had your mind becomes saturated with them and it leaves no room for anything good to enter - as is also the case when you are constantly hearing about others' negative experiences.
I think you have a lot of care and compassion within you @outlander but I do wonder sometimes if you are consumed with negativity because it also brings with it attention - and often when we are hurting we want that attention however we receive it.
I have seen your growth over the last year - and there have been many positives (and you certainly have contributed a lot here on the forum) - I would love to see you 'grow' as much irl too and maybe this group that you are going to be part of will be a stepping stone for that - I honestly hope for you it is 
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Unknown userMember
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@outlander i quiet often let people do what ever they so wish to me and im trying to learn to say no to things i am not comfortable with or dont want to do. I guess its also self care in a way.....i have no clue if thats of any help,sorry:/
But also a big part of it for me is actually learning what i want from a friendship/relationship because a lot of the time i dont know i just want people to care....
But also a big part of it for me is actually learning what i want from a friendship/relationship because a lot of the time i dont know i just want people to care....
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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So I have to practice more of the Zoe Method again @Zoe7 the first one we did where we challanged the negative?
Im not seeking attention, but thank you for picking it up what i may not see.
The groups start in a little over a week now so am just hanging around until then. I do want to make and build friendships or even just learn to socialise better and learn some skills even if no friends are really made. Itll still be a good learning experience and might lead to other opportunities too.
And thank you ❤
Im not seeking attention, but thank you for picking it up what i may not see.
The groups start in a little over a week now so am just hanging around until then. I do want to make and build friendships or even just learn to socialise better and learn some skills even if no friends are really made. Itll still be a good learning experience and might lead to other opportunities too.
And thank you ❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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That is a good thing to practice @Former-Member learning to say no can be really hard but hopefully it becomes easier for you soon...and also learning what it is you want too can be tricky. I guess sometimes we dont really know until we learn through experience
Thank you ❤
Thank you ❤
