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outlanderSenior Contributor
evening @Former-Member
could you perhaps take a look and see if thats a side effect of your meds? im not sure pain meds would have that sort of effect but you never know!
you know having those SI thoughts scaring you despite how crap it is its good. when my thoughts no longer scare me thats a big warning sign things arent right so keep being scared!
if you need help with your safety plan the mods are good at helping you work through it, they helped me quite alot. we can help here too if you would like (something are abit limiting though)
hows your day been? did you manage those thoughts or have they reduced abit more now?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
@Former-Memberim alway happy to chat if you need to. 
i dont mind and it takes away from my own thoughts too.
im really glad they have gone tonight. its tiring having those SI thoughts isnt it..
yep each thing affects everyone differently so perhaps it is one of your meds but best to chat with gp again- do you think you could have a chat to them soon?
have you noticed your moods changed since starting those meds? or more so now that winters setting in?
i dont really get the winter blues, my depression is like a bloody rollercoaster all yr round without the changes in weather. have you found anything that helps perk your mood up at all?
we not long had a storm either. its gotten really cold so ive rugged up in bed before i start creaking too esp with an injury atm causing enough pain on its own.
could you try heat packs at all to help with your arthritis? or gentle massages?
yep ive got pets, a dog, bird, rabbit and horses. all of them stay outside though. they all have covers to keep the cold out when winters here and the rabbit has shavings in her cage too and birds got like a nest thing he can go into if he chooses to. your dogs are lucky. pop doesnt like the animals much so they dont come inside.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
hi @Former-Member how are you going?
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Oh, thanks for asking, i pretty much keep it shoved deep down @outlander, wont burden you too much with details as i know you have much to carry yourself. Think i only had one whoosh / wave of suicidal urge yesterday, a visual reminder of the night my girl died (in front of me). It comes up from the depths & crushes me, bringing strong suicidal thoughts with it... 😩
wrecks me for the day, most days, have to go lay down most times. Sometimes get despairing wondering -
- don't know if i can keep doing this.
Its not fair.
But the intense moment is getting shorter with the years at least (still as deep) or maybe i'm use to it...
Thanks for asking, giving me a place to get this out ❤
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