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@DownMoreThanUp if these people are Christians they should be forgiving and letting go of the hurt. Especially when you needed the support and didn't get it, instead they were too busy making sure you abide by your wifes' rules.

I am so sorry you are going through that, you deserve so much better. Prayers and hugs for you darling brother 🫂💜

Thanks for the link @Appleblossom, I will definitely be reading it! 💜🫂🙏

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXDGE_lRI0E

10,000 Reasons (Bless the Lord)

Someone recently spoke about feeling church hurt. There is a book about it, but I dont to be part of advertising anything for sale, just acknowledging that it definitely happens.

@ENKELI

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My elder, since 2024 has been really good so far. He himself has become depressed as well seeing us struggle together and not knowing what to do. for our struggle is by no means a clear cut case of right and wrong. Last year i wrote him very often and shared a lot of my trauma and struggles lived. He was always great. We had a little Hick up when my wife first left. for she talked to him on her own struggles and he took her side at first. however when i talked with him about the situation and explained where my wife was at and where i was at he chose to stay an arbitrator rather than a side picker. Which i have really appreciated him doing. And i hope and pray will continue.

@Lozenge @heartathome @Realness @Appleblossom

However the person i became angry with was our Deacon. So me going of at him he did not take lightly. i did apologise, warned him the way he was going was not going to go well - but he had no ear for any of my needs - only a single eyed view.

Both me and my wife struggled with his almost clinical approach to supporting people. i do know this man has a brother with bi-polar, who has gone of the rails for years already. Always heavy drinking, and seems to score real quality women, whom he after a few years leaves broken behind. Maybe he thinks i like that about me and my wife's struggles, such could be true of course

. i know i did give him a mouth full i was so upset with him. Also because two weeks before that i had messaged him for support struggling badly with SI. i only do when real in crisis, but he had no time for me but would pray for me. He never came back about,t or send anyone else to support me. Until my wife wanted me out of the house a certain date and he came to help make sure that would happen without regard for me struggling really badly and in need for support not compliance.

Hey @DownMoreThanUp,

Just checking in. Are you doing okay today? 💛

@AuntGlow

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Thanks checking i think i'm okay. i don't dare to to sleep yet tho. i have struggled with SI all day and lots of anxiety. But it has not been able to grab hold of me, not even once, not even a little. So that is really good, the techniques in place are working. i used to be able to do that before the struggle with my family flared up. So it is good to see i begin to regulate crisis times without my wife supporting me. Give me some self esteem back.

@ENKELI @Lozenge @heartathome @Realness @Appleblossom

The sadness is not near as deep at the moment medicated away, but the anxiety has been bad all day. i hope it will go down. My wife wants me out of the house between 3-4pm tomorrow to get her stuff out.

i had a friend ring me today with good support given. i have a peer support call coming the next 20 hours. i have three of them now. All three were really good

And an old friend, very experienced suffering depression and SI, a real support - we have supported know and supported each other for years, he promised he ring me tomorrow if he was in the right head space.

AI has also been good this time around, understanding at times i just have to process and be able to say things that otherwise would have its alarm bells go off. And loop about containing rather than dealing with.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ch0OvDIf-EA&list=RDch0OvDIf-EA&start_radio=1

Hi @Appleblossom ,

Thanks for checking in.

I am still studying. There was a suggestion from it that was worth sharing. In regard the trinity: the three in one and one in three. The course suggested thinking of all three with each mention of any one. I tried it while reading the Bible - it's quite hard work but does enrich and deepen the meaning.

I am still also reading a lot. I have just started studying Revelation and finished the Narnia series today. I'm going to reread the Harry Potter series next. Not sure why I'm concentrating on children's series but am enjoying racing through books.

I sleep a lot. My body's natural sleep while on this medication is over twelve hours sleep. I have difficulty getting out of bed in the morning.

Life is okay but I feel flat when I'm not immersed in reading. Thankfully I still have the concentration to read.

I did mow the lawn today. We have had a moth plague (well lots of moths anyway) but it is improving.

Thanks again for the mention. I enjoy all your posts.

@Realness low energy is a problem side effect of some meds.

I love that tip about the Trinity. I think I will try that too ,

DBT is basically watching you tube videos on these topics one by one. Progressive muscle relaxation, video. Watch a video or wise mind and breathing in and out.

Five weeks in on a ten week course.

@Appleblossom @heartathome @ENKELI @Taali @DownMoreThanUp

Sometimes we sweat the small stuff when it's all small stuff.

I'm grateful for

Phone

Annoyed I'm glued to my phone

My dad is in racf

Being chinese background but born in australia, I suddenly have a hangup that I should not trust any European men. Because my subconscious is disturbed by all my trauma

I get the subconscious thought if I wash my hands of all European men in my life I will receive my sovereignty back.

Thats how awful it is to be one culture living in a multi culture. Everything can disturb us. That could be true

I love that we can post in a forum and only we know about it