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Falling apart

dands26Senior Contributor29 Nov 2017, 4:24 pm AEDT

Falling apart

I have just discovered this forum and am hoping that i can find some people who have simillar experiences as myself.

4 weeks ago my then partner decided to end our relationship, he suffers PTSD which has turned into somewhat chronic depression.

He asked that i remain his friend as he feels as though if i didnt he would have no body.

I am upholding his request and trying to support him the best that i can. He has not done anything to hurt me in anyway and he believes that ending the relationship is better for me then me continuing to live alongside him and his depression. He feels he is not worthy of somebody doing that.

He has expressed alot more since we have seperated about his feelings towards different things that have happened throughout his life and i guess as such contributed to how he feels today.

Taking out the relationship and looking at this as even just a friend, sometimes it is very difficult. I dont know what to say or do to some of the feelings he tells me.

I am new to this forum its my first post. I am unsure how much information to give, but i am hoping there is somebody out there who has some words of support or wisdom for me.

Thanks in advance

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dands26Senior Contributor30 Dec 2017, 9:57 pm AEDT

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Hi @Determined
Christmas went okay it was a little uncomfortable.
How are things going for you?
Xmr had his birthday a couple of days after. That went well.
Hopefully we are on the upwards battle now.
Meds seem too be going okay. Almost finished week 2 of those.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor31 Dec 2017, 4:25 pm AEDT

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Things ok here @dands26 , had a shaky lead up to Christmas but went ok, had birthdays for my brother and father in-law in the week after so lots of time out and socialising, my darling did ok considering. The effort of pretending to be happy does take its toll though.

Trust things consider on the up for you.

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TABSenior Contributor31 Dec 2017, 4:32 pm AEDT

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Sometimes it actually can lead to being happy re pretending @Determined 😀 Well I haven't tried it in a while tho lol

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DeterminedSenior Contributor31 Dec 2017, 4:43 pm AEDT

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Doesn't seem to work for my darling unfortunately @TAB, 😞

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TABSenior Contributor31 Dec 2017, 5:08 pm AEDT

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Oh well @Determined .. I wish I was determined .. 😀

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Sanatorium23Senior Contributor01 Jan 2018, 9:26 am AEDT

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Putting on a happy face is indeed exhausting. I was heartened to hear that she tried though @Determined. This seems a positive step compared to how things were a month or so ago. Did it feel that way?

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DeterminedSenior Contributor01 Jan 2018, 10:47 am AEDT

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She did try @Sanatorium23 even compared to a week or two ago, still struggling on the us front but there has been a glimmer of hope there also.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor01 Jan 2018, 3:49 pm AEDT

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Putting on a happy face is indeed exhausting, yes totally @Sanatorium23

Mr shaz has been trying to for a week holiday , glad to be back home today , bad night last night , I thought it would be good to break the journey home and stay somewhere overnight -- ohh was i wrong and then I found out he did not take his meds yesterday

Hello @Determined, @dands26, @Faith-and-Hope

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Sanatorium23Senior Contributor01 Jan 2018, 11:57 pm AEDT

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Sorry to hear that @Shaz51. It’s so hard to know what will work out well and what won’t. Are his meds fast acting and badly thrown out if he misses a day? My love is on the depot shots now, which come with their own issues, but not taking them is at least out of the equation. Take care hon.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor02 Jan 2018, 12:28 pm AEDT

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thankyou @Sanatorium23 , how is today going

The trouble is my husband is playing yoyo with his meds

when he is taking his full meds all the time ,it is good but he does not like the side affects so he starts going off them without the GP help

after a few days and I start seeing him going back to what he was like , i will say you are cutting back too fast

Hello @dands26, @Faith-and-Hope, @Determined

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