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Falling apart

dands26Senior Contributor

Falling apart

I have just discovered this forum and am hoping that i can find some people who have simillar experiences as myself.

4 weeks ago my then partner decided to end our relationship, he suffers PTSD which has turned into somewhat chronic depression.

He asked that i remain his friend as he feels as though if i didnt he would have no body.

I am upholding his request and trying to support him the best that i can. He has not done anything to hurt me in anyway and he believes that ending the relationship is better for me then me continuing to live alongside him and his depression. He feels he is not worthy of somebody doing that.

He has expressed alot more since we have seperated about his feelings towards different things that have happened throughout his life and i guess as such contributed to how he feels today.

Taking out the relationship and looking at this as even just a friend, sometimes it is very difficult. I dont know what to say or do to some of the feelings he tells me.

I am new to this forum its my first post. I am unsure how much information to give, but i am hoping there is somebody out there who has some words of support or wisdom for me.

Thanks in advance

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Unknown userMember

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Such a lovely reply @PeppiPatty

The depth of your thoughts and telling of belief and strength especially in self is so very important tome...I am trying very hard to keep on working at this..

thankyou so much..

I wish for you and mr g a happy holiday period..

mohill

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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Dearest @Former-Member

Thats increible.....I am thinking about you and your situation today and you wrote to me.....

I am glad that I'm easily read. Our lives are not that complicated. We just have a life that people don't get because we don't fit the page.

But @Former-Member.....only do what you feel is right. You have always been intelligent even though your husband etc, have mahybe queried your actions with your son, I feel that you have spent a lot of thought and true integrity.

Thank you agan so much for your compliments....

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TABSenior Contributor

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Readers Digest has the answers re writing style 😀 or is it a cut and paste? Ok formulas

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dands26Senior Contributor

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@Determined thank you for your message yesterday
I did see it but my mind was in other places.
First pdoc was a success.
Been given medication and we have been advised with possible side effects he might be in for a difficult couple of weeks.
I made a suggestion to the meddler.
They took onboard what i said and that turned out good as well.
Huge relief today..

@Faith-and-Hope @PeppiPatty @Shaz51
How are you all feeling?

I have an rdo from work today, so im sitting outside with my coffee and a book.
Had another sleepover with mr...
He was also given sleeping tablets so he took half and has slept all night.
He woke briefly before worried i was leaving without saying goodbye.
However ive reassured him i wont leave yet and put him back to bed.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Having a bit of a falling apart day today @dands26 ......

I didn't think I would be having to go through another year of this last Christmas ...... and with my S2's team it feels in some respects like I have fallen out of the frying pan into the fire.

Usually Inam good at just parking things up and keeping on keeping on ..... but not today .....

Today I am leaking all over the place.

Today I have got my take-away breakfast from the coffee shop, and I am going home to eat it with mr. f&h while he eats porridge no. 2 (breakfast no. 3) like ticking a box ...... going through the rituals of holding this thing together ...... still feeling invalidated and unheard ...... and disconnected.

Tomorrow is another day ..... so I will wade through all these years today ..... prepare for a special dinner with D2 and SIL tonight cos they will be away for Christmas this year ..... and keep moving through preparations for Christmas.

"This too shall pass ..... "

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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@dands26

What a plus.

Keep on writing how you are self caring today.

Even a cup of tea alone in the kitchen is a plus.

When you have the cup of tea: perhaps you can look out the window and focus on say a tree or the soft wind and think of the breeze going past your home. If your mind wanders thats ok.

It's good to hear how you are living your days

YOu are also helping me, I remember how to selfcare by writing to you

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Unknown userMember

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Sending you cyber hugs @Faith-and-Hope

I hope you have a lovely dinner tonight and tomorrow is a better day

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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Dearest @Faith-and-Hope

My darling darling fellow friend in Western Australia. I am with you while you feel disconnected.

I so dearly wish we can have a cup of tea together. We can think of nothing if you like : I can think friendship and strength when you are feeling sad.

Please sit with me when I'm leaking.......my words are spilling everywhere. Please sit with me and be my friend when I'm feeling sad today too.

We only have a couple of presents......we are getting money after Christmas so all my friends are getting something after Christmas. They can wait.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Yes they can @PeppiPatty ...... and thank you for being my cyber friend. I would love to meet you for a cup of tea, and I feel so honoured that you asked NikNik if that would be possible ......

Hugs n hugs ....... ❤️

Thank you @Former-Member ..... 😔💕

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Unknown userMember

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Dearest @Faith-and-Hope. I am so sorry to read that today is such a difficult day for you. You are normally so strong, but we all have a breaking point. But dont worry, you will come through it and come out even stronger at the other end.

Enjoy your dinner out tonight, and look forward to a new and better day tomorrow.

My apologies @dands26 for intruding on your thread. And hello to other visitors here @PeppiPatty @TAB @Former-Member.

Sherry

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