TRIGGERRED!!!!!

Hi @outlander

I read all your triggers and that is a lot but alas - many of them are common to live itself - not all though - and the idea is learning to live with a lot of it because it is not likely to go away

I do remember the times in my life when getting out of bed was a major task and it seemed like no one cared - and maybe no one did - but I survived

And I am glad I did because I am here today to say you can live with this and your Pop is a major deal in your life and I know you love him and I know how hard all of this is

In fact - the stuff you have on is a lot for someone so young yet you don't seem that young - and setting up house is a big deal - I think what has happened is that you really needed your mother to move out and take all the chores with her but no - she landed them onto you as if it was an unpaid deal she thinks she has

Time will pass - I can tell your for sure it always does - and you can gain strength and build up your own health and start to make some firm choices and this time isn't yet but it is coming

So yes - I hear you and I understand - I know it's really hard but you have your main priorities - your Pop and your horses and somehow getting yourself through it

I get it

Dec

i can make some cards up and have a small empty box on my shelves atm that could work @Sans911

um yeah i think so, i think i can manage that. its a visual thing so might work better than imagination

@Owlunar

yes i have a lot of trigger and they are growing all the time, the last time i dont a triggers list for my psych it was 4 A4 pages long and yes most of them are everyday living things so its even harder but have to learn to manage.

im glad you survived too, not jsut for me but for yourself and your daughter and family.

yes responsibilities climb all the time and its both a blessing and a curse. more so a curse right now.

thanks for caring and listening @Owlunar

ok, sounds simple enough @Sans911 i can do them today

whats next? @Sans911

@outlander@Sans911

I really like those ideas Sans - really good idea - I have done that kind of thing myself at times but not with the cards

Yes - Outlander - you have a lot of triggers but there is only one way to deal with them - or maybe two counting Sans' idea with the cards

And that's to breathe your way through all of it - and learn to keep this up - because you already know the alternative is visits to the doctor and hospital which is stuff you don't want to happen

Yes - this is really hard - and a lot to accommodate - but what are your choices - I am sure you don't want to end up at the ED again

I believe in you - I believe you can do it

Dec

ok @Sans911 i guess your right about any relationship really... yes it was/is helpful

is there anything else to put on these cards while im making them? ill be making them up a little later this arvo, im in the middle of baking. my sweet tooth calls when in this state but ill send them home with mum and the kids can hyp up on sugar lol.

thank you

yes @Owlunar lots of triggers indeed! thanks for your help too btw, youve been a great help too.

so yes making cards today is the plan and just contending with those issues today is a start..