Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

Hi again @Former-Member

Its horrible the chronic anxiety and not sure if you had insomina too but the lack of sleep is getting to me. I am so struggling with the insomina atm. I thought going into hospital it might help with getting my sleep back on track.

I hear you @Former-Member about how much pressure you are under and I hope you are taking some time out for you too.

In terms of HRT did you try any customized treatment?

Yes, @Former-Member. I did suffer insomnia then too. Sleep deprivation can cause anxiety/depression in me. I can suffer it now for different reasons. The lack of sleep would be making your depression and anxiety worse and I truly sympathise. Insomnia can be cruel - a very common symptom of menopause also.

The psych hospital would only offer sleep meds for that I think? I wish I could tell you the one I am on as it's one of the better meds that doesn't produce bad side effects on a low dosage. I find it so helpful. Some of them are not so good.

My HRT is a standard one. I started on a very low dose but when this proved ineffective it was raised a gram and that did the trick for me. It took a bit of time to work out the right dosage but when I did it really worked well. So it can be trial and error finding the right dosage that works, but worth it. I have heard of other women whom were on customised HRT that also worked well for them. I slept better once my hormones were adjusted and my anxiety/depression eased and memory improved. When my thyroid was out that also caused terrible depression - it was quite disturbing at the time as I thought I was going mad. But once corrected I went back to feeling normal.

My stressors now are largely caused by my daughter and husbands health complaints. Otherwise I would be so happy as I feel better in myself. Sometimes stress can just suck the life out of you but I still try and find peaceful moments and savour them, making the most of my life. Like everyone, I wish it was a little more peaceful and easier but that is life.

I think once you have been on the HRT for awhile you will sleep a lot better. Sleep is so healing. Sending you a warm hug xxx

❤️ @utopia ....

Hi @utopia - sending you big hugs. You are a very special lady to help a friend whom is going through a hard time when you are feeling the way you do. You are strong - and hence why this weak chap did what he did.

I had a really good friend whom I thought the world of do this to me quite a few years ago. She had been through a hard time with a cheating husband then divorce etc. I stood by her all the way and she commented on how much of a good time we have when we get together. Then she pulled away for no reason. Leaving me feeling lost and hurt as to why.

Then years later we caught up on facebook and where chatting away happily and openly for weeks as if nothing happened. Everything was great and she was going to visit etc. At that stage of my life I was telling her how I loved where I lived and my life, my husband, my area near the sea and wanted her to visit. She seemed excited and we exchanged phone numbers. Then bang again - she unfriended and took herself off Facebook, then I rang her and there was never an answer. This time I felt bewildered again, disappointed but angry!!!! Yes she is going through a hard time but what she did was selfish and low. They could of least said why after the help and support offered. I did never expect anything in return - only mutual respect and that was not there. If I saw her again I would be happy to chat but never would I allow her another chance to treat me like that. Never allow a so called one sided friendship again. As I deserve better - and so do you.

It's them my friend - not us. I think what happened with my friend and perhaps yours is that they have seen strength in us that they don't have - they see that we are in a better place and that makes them feel inadequate!! So they wipe us so they can feel better! And you will find that they will associate with people who are like them or troubled who dont make them feel that low. Hence they stay in that state as they don't want better presently. Some whom are feeling like that can do hurtful things just to bring the other down to make them appear better to themselves. It empowers them and if others keep going back they will do it again and again for that reason and psychological abuse occurs. And they be as nice as pie to our faces....actions speak louder my friend. He has already harmed you psychologically (feeling lost).

I suffered horrific physical, mental, emotional and sexual childhood abuse and yes it adversely effects the mind. But that it is no excuse for treating others who show kindness and friendship like you showed only to be treated with no respect for your feelings.

Whatever the reason he was not thinking of your welfare as true friends do.....

They are the ones who are lost my friend and in your situation "it is his loss". Don't second guess yourself or let this effect your own self esteem and confidence. In time you will see this and move on to more genuine relationships who will appreciate your strengths and appreciate and love you for who you are - and will be there for you as true friends are. Other relations are toxic. See the end of this one as that and let go for your own well being ❤️X