I dont know how much longer i can go on like this

@Zoe7

Ok well then a new psych will have to be looked for. I tried this psych and shes not helping. I dont find her helpful one bit.
I utilise pdoc and gp and meds ( i do actually have to go off them) and am gling off them safely under instruction of gp. i hate going to the psych she makes me feel worse than i do walking in there.

Ill sit down tomorrow and work out what and where things that i can change in my daily routine as well

Thanks @Former-Member go take care of you

Thanks for your help @Former-Member @Zoe7 @CheerBear @Phoenix_Rising and everyone

Good morning @outlander. Hoping that your morning has/is about to start ok and that your day today has something in it that feels good for you 💗

Thanks everyone for your help last night. I dont really know ehat else to say. I have no words.
@Former-Member @Zoe7 @CheerBear @Phoenix_Rising

Hi again @outlander

I was in the shower running through some things I have going on at the moment, and trying to work out how to go about them. I was using something I learnt through the DBT adventure, which I now use often. It's called Options for Solving any Problem which you can read about on page 5 of the DBT thread (on mobile so it's hard to hyperlink) under the post with the heading "An Overview of DBT" (how great is Phoenix_Rising's idea to title important posts?!).

Anyway, I thought of you and wondered whether it could be something useful for you to try also (I think of you often when I read the DBT stuff). I thought I would mention it to you, especially given that last night you said you would sit down today and have a look at what changes you might be able to make.

The four options for solving any problem (with this approach) are:

1. Solve the problem
2. Feel better about the problem
3. Tolerate the problem
4. Stay miserable

Using this has really has helped me heaps recently and I find myself running over it with big and little problems. Like so many of us, I have lots of problems and it helps to break them down so they don't feel so completely overwhelming, and then look at them knowing I have four clear avenues I can take for tackling them. I then look at what I have tried, what I might not have tried yet, whether any are actually possible or not, and what I feel right about.

I would be happy to try and work through some of this with you if you think it might help, or to go through things you might come across on the DBT thread (if you are following/catch anything) if you'd like. I'm learning myself still and don't have all of the answers, but maybe we could have a go and learn together at some point.

Hugs. Keep on keeping on Outlander x

Hi @CheerBear

Thanks for explaining the dbt stuff and the problem solving options.
If you dont mind id love your help. I dont know where to start with any of it, you might have a better idea. But thank you i would appreciate your help

I think a great place to start with this is to work out what exactly the problem/s are (being careful not to totally overwhelm yourself if you can) @outlander. Maybe write down a couple of the ones you think are pressing at the moment, or ones you're really stuck with, or ones that might feel right to look at now - whatever works for you. Even as a bit of a dot point list. Then do something nice for yourself maybe, even if it's sitting back for a moment and saying to yourself "Go me. I'm trying!", or putting it away for a while and finding a nice place to sit with a cuppa (this is what I do, but whatever works for you). Acknowledging what you are doing can be really helpful I think.

I'm going to head out for a couple of hours (grocery shopping and December prepping - so much ugh)! But I should be floating around from then

Go you - you really are trying 😘