Night Shift

I'm taking off too to wind down to sleep, as it's heading towards 2am now. Goodnight everyone, sleep well when you get there. ox

Still here @Former-Member .... just .... 😏

Sounds like a plan ❣

Amazing what you can find on the net ....

😂 G'night .....

I think you put it well @Faith-and-Hope She and her family are strongly atheistic ... so there is no faith ... or even understanding ... but because she loves classical music .. she goes into churches only to see concerts. I talked a lot of about christianity and social justice in a non pushy way for a while ... the choir she has just joined is one choir I sing in with my son (I'm in lots - church and not) .. she failed audition last time when my son got the scholarship and was very anxious and having kittens etc so we had to nurse all that ... but we encourage and teach her and she passed the audition last week ... we are singing an Oratorio ... so its a major religious work but at the town hall ... secular ...not in a liturgy ...

"learning to play nicely" .. not back stabbing and hugging me to my face and filling my son's ear with endless complaints about me ... when she is demanding enough with all her vegan plus stipulations. That would have been fine ... if she could be genuine ... but she is a poor isolated mixed up kid ... torn by a lot of hatred to her mother ... its sad and written on her face ...

I am just walking very carefully ...

Thanks @Mazarita. I was a bit blindsided by your last post to me and a bit lost for words (a rare thing😝). I struggle because it never seems enough. I'm not sure if you feel this way. I think that one of the things that haunts me on here and everywhere for that matter is that I could pinpoint things for everyone on here that helps them get through, that gives them purpose, that gives them a sense of achievement. I haven't got that at all but I'm hoping to. Sorry I just realised that may come across as depressing, it wasn't meant to. Thank you as always for your support though. It means a great deal to me. 💜😊💐

I can relate @Appleblossom ....

DIL's a bit like that 😢

Waiting for her to grow up .... will take a while ...

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@Appleblossom Hopefully she will come to see that you have so much to offer (which is not to be taken for granted). I'm sure you patience and guidance will win. She obviously has much to learn about the world. It is lovely though that perhaps the best thing is that you can connect through music which is a wonderful gift in itself. 💜😊

@Faith-and-HopeBecause I befriended her first and she actually came away for a weekend with me ... and volunteered as usher for free seats at the Opera in the Alps ... the year before we got her in and she couls sing .. we had our own friendship.

So yesterday . I said she needed to decide about our friendship ... I could detach and just become MIL but that would be different ... it needed to come out ... I am pretty patient .. but cant keep being used ... then I am modelling being a fool for my son ... so logic means .. we be compassionate .. but there are lines to be drawn in the sand.

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope and @Former-Member it helps to talk to mums

Dont underestimate what you have got keeping you going @Former-Member ... heaps ... soon there will be time for you to start up a bit more life for yourself ... I never thought it would be choirs for me ... but it worked as an escape one night a week ... and which I could function at even if I was falling apart .. now I do lots

I think you are doing the right things @Appleblossom. You are role modelling for your son but more importantly you are demanding the respect YOU DESERVE.

Thanks for your support here too. I sincerely value it. 💜😊💐

Hi @plasmo. I was about to head to bed but I'll stay for a quick how are you?