Night Shift

Hi @Faith-and-Hope @Mazarita @Appleblossom @Former-Member @comet mostly a quiet day here. Went to vote and had lunch with my neighbours and watched a couple of movies tonight including Miss You Already which really moved me. Then caught up on the election results so far before coming on here. Happy to see there's been a change in my electorate.

@eth That's lovely that your child has forgiven you. Mine are pretty protective over me and I suspect yours is/has been too. I hope for this not to change. I try to be honest with everything with them so at least they can make some sense of it all. I think understanding MI helps. Two of mine have seen psychologists which makes me feel good they'll reach out for help so young.

Sounds like a pretty good day, @eth, with a few things happening and a change in your electorate. What was the movie about?

Do your activities finish up for the holidays @Mazarita.

@Former-Member I've always believed honesty with our kids is really important. Especially when we honestly tell them we don't know something yet! Or we just learned something about our parenting that we want to do better at. I've had to do that a lot.

@Mazarita the movie is about two female best friends and one of them gets breast cancer early in the film and it's about their journey after that. Don't want to say more as I'll spoil it if you want to see it. But I will if you want me to.

If you mean my creative activities, @Former-Member, I only really take holidays from them when I go down south to visit mum and my other people down there.

@eth, I snuck a look at Wikipedia while you were writing about the movie and saw it has Toni Collette in it. She's so great. Probably not likely to watch it but can look it up more to save you explaining it. What was the other movie you watched? Any good? I got a bit of Star Trek tonight (Next Gen this time). Bit embarrassing to admit but hat's about the only thing I'm watching at the moment. I have an irrational love of that show.

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@Teej wrote:

I don't really expect a quick response @Appleblossom but I find it easier to chat as such. It's often my own daily conversation. Sad but true. My mum and Dad live nearby. They are in their mid 70s but still treat me like a child. I was massively overprotected as a child come adult but with some interesting twists of not ever being nurtured. I have definitely been loved but not shown love or affection if that makes sense.

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Hi guys ....

@Former-Member - what you have written above explains my WH's situation growing up so well .... dearly loved but not shown love or affection - only through expensive gift-giving, like a transfer of things instead of feelings .....

And @Mazarita, it was my MIL who I had mother-issues with, inherited through marriage it would seem ....

I know there is this whole unresolved emotional turmoil underpinning my in-law family - not that anybody's is perfect - but there is war trauma in there, and huge abandonment and emotional abuse issues particular to that family, rather than to the culture itself.

I am still unsettled tonight from WH rocking my boat this morning on his way to the airport. He over-extended what he could fit into his time-frame and lashed out vindictively .... but it wasn't his rational mind .... so you can argue yourself blue in the face and not get anywhere ..... so hard to switch off in the moment .... still struggling to switch off .... but settling into a movie with my girls, so hopefully that will do it.

Good to see so many around here tonight ....

@Appleblossom, it works both ways ... drop a message and come back later, or "live chat" like the Friday Feast. It's good to keep in touch either way.

Hi @comet @eth @Former-Member @plasmo sometime soon maybe ... ? @Tyler77 @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Decadian @BlueBay

@Faith-and-Hope, big warm hugs heading your way. I hope your husband has been wonderful to be with at other times, so that at least you have that to hold on to while you are going through such difficult times with him now. What's the movie you are watching with girls tonight? Glad you have that warmth to return to. Agree with you that live chat is great and coming and going at different times is fine too.

Hi @Faith-and-Hope hope the movie helps you unwind.

@Mazarita Toni Collette was the one with cancer (she was brilliant as always) and the reason it moved me so much is that she had to have a double mastectomy, which they showed in close-ups and it's something my adult child has told me they want to have done when they can afford it as part of their transgender transition. I seem to keep seeing things about this procedure recently. I guess it's helping me recognize my feelings about it but ..... it leaves me at a loss for words right now. As the kids would say - "so many feels".