Night Shift

G'night @PeppiPatty

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I'm kind of still around @Mazarita. Not sure my brain is though😊 My night has been ok. Been trying to sort out my own mother issues too. It really should be easier than this for us all. Does make me so scared about what my kids will be like in the future with me though. Mine has been away for a month and got back last night. Already rocking my boat one day in. As you can imagine my mother issues are a little different to most. It is lovely to se you a bit brighter tonight😊💜

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, good to see you. How's your day been?

@Former-Member, thanks, I am feeling brighter, getting to be that time of night when I get that way. Morning is another story though. Hopefully the better feelings from today might carry over this time. Sorry you are having your boat rocked by returned son. Mother issues would be more complex when you are carrying your own in your head and being one too, I imagine. My mum as she is aged 80 is much different to how she was when I was younger. Glad to say we have a much improved relationship these days.

Hey @comet

sounds like you have been trying really hard to get your life back on the best track you can😊💜

That's awesome. 👍🎉 hopefully not too much longer for withdrawals then.

did a little happy dance for Jamie Briggs losing his seat🎊, not my electorate but he's not my fave politician.

No sorry @Mazarita i knew brain not in gear. Brain rocked by returning mother, my mum. My boys to date are awesome but at some stage they will all get mad at me I think.

Mum was away overseas for the last month @Mazarita .

Hello to whoever is still here. Haven't caught up on the conversation yet but wanted to say hi 🙂

@PeppiPatty all I can say about seeing your Mum tomorrow is it might help you to set some boundaries in your mind before you go, and if you see or feel warning signs make some sort of clear statement to her about the way she treats you. When my Mum and I were re-establishing our contact after several years' break that's what I did. I told her I wanted to have contact with her (she's getting on in years and I didn't want to be gone from her life if anything happened to her) but only if we didn't discuss certain things. Even now, another several years down the track, I just tell myself not to engage when she raises certain topics. It's not always easy but it does get easier over time. And when I am staying with her I take time to myself when I need to (I use going outside for a ciggie or needing to make a phone call as an excuse). Hope it goes ok for you but remember it's ok to put your own needs first and leave if you need to.

I also had to say sorry many times over to my child for the crazy times when I was raising them and undiagnosed as well as having adverse reactions to antidepressants. Luckily we now have a healthy adult relationship. But I still feel the guilt at times as my adult child now has therapy to deal with issues from their childhood. But at the same time they say they forgive me and know I was dealing with improperly diagnosed MI.

Hi @Former-Member

I am a bit old fashioned and have only JUST begun to understand that people expect fairly quick responses in the forum setting. I was so out in left field and my internet so slow and computer wonky that I would often just post and go away .. and respond to posts next day etc ... but now I can see we can actually have live chat ... duh ... not with it ...

Is your mother living with you or close by?

Sorry, @Former-Member, not your brain, mine thinking along a different track. Sorry you are having some grief with your mum. Feel free to talk about it. I have a long history of trouble with mine, majorly to do with my own issues in so many ways. Mum has always been very loving to me but she has a lot of damage from her life as well that has had its impact. Just great that she and I are enjoying smoother sailing than ever before at this time of our lives. It's taken a long time to get here though.

@Appleblossom, yep the live chat aspect of this thread is very different to how it used to be really.

Hi @eth, how's your day been?

I don't really expect a quick response @Appleblossom but I find it easier to chat as such. It's often my own daily conversation. Sad but true. My mum and Dad live nearby. They are in their mid 70s but still treat me like a child. I was massively overprotected as a child come adult but with some interesting twists of not ever being nurtured. I have definitely been loved but not shown love or affection if that makes sense.