Night Shift

Oh dont we need our space. I am looking forward to my time away but there wont be any privacy for most of January ... shared sleeping arrangements etc ... cosy aircraft cabins.

Thanks @PeppiPatty I tried to be brave ... I tried to grow up ... but I guess I am reminded of the saying "fools rush in where angels fear to tread" ... the only good thing ... that I didnt actually rush.

Lately I have been reclaiming childish things like "ooops" made a mistake ... or "dunno" freedom not to know ... to reclaim a sense of childishness ... not in a dementia way but in a deliberate light-heartedness that wasnt part of my youth.. so i can laugh more now and not scare my children with tales of doom and gloom.

I will miss you all but I am not taking my computer away ... just my phone ... for texting son ... which I rarely use ..

Hope you like my new profile pic ... it is for the old beach Apple ... who goes back to nature and basics ... and a testament to some of the things I love about Australia.

Good Luck all

Hi @Appleblossom,

their is nothing like being childish every now and again :), i have seen some words i got a giggle out of in your writing.

i will miss you @Appleblossom, have a wonderful time, and a safe trip.

Oh i love the pic 😄

take care

Jacques

Lol

Dear @Jacques

Okay you have not upset me. YOu have not upset me. Actually, I was trying to ask you how to move on and you answered me with a thoughtful responce.

YOu are my friend. I care about you and @hiddenite so much.

Arlo give you big cuddles. He is getting his hair cut on Thursday and getting his yearly injection on Friday.

When you write : Maybe trying to start the conversation on your own terms, about the weather, polotics and general stuff does work too, everytime the conversation drifts to the past, gently deflect or change the subject.

Id what I wanted to know.

Thanks friend,

Anne

@Appleblossom Sounds like you are about to walk out the door. Hope I've made it in time to wish you a fond farewell and see you soon. Best wishes for the break away to you! Like @Jacques, I will miss you.

p.s. I do like your new avatar very much.

I 'll miss you too @Appleblossom

childish words are good good. I also say..oops, jeepers kreepers, oh, golly too !!

@LittleBuddha wishes you the best. xx

Please buy yourself a lovely gift for just you like something like a candle or a plant....just for you. So you can remember your time there..........

Like your pic very much Apple

xx

Thank you Anne, you are a wonderful friend, i do hope you are able to have conversations on your terms, i know the pain and hardship of having the past brought up over and over.

OMG Mr Arlo is going to be a new man :D. i don't think he is going to enjoy friday to much though 😞

Thanks for the cuddle Mr Arlo, you are soft and plush 🙂

Take care Anne

Jacques

Dear @Jacques

HAhahaaha!! Soft and plush! me and @LittleBuddha love you !! Love the word plush!!

Yes, Arlo is Very Loved by people...he is that traitor who comes and sits by your feet ...and pretends he doesnt know me and @LittleBuddha...after he gets some food, what he wants.....he may acknowledge us.........

Im going to bed now.......

Please send my love to @hiddenite

Haha, Mr Arlo is such a smart man, he gets people to do his bidding, i really like him now.

Good night @PeppiPatty, sleep well.

Jacques

Dear Jacques,

Ive been thninking about your good advise and I realised something about her .....my Mum and @LittleBuddha mother.

They havent grown up. They are still teenagers ......

I learnt all this stuff..........

and transference; where you transfer your dissappiontments of yourself and repressed memories of your childhood onto someone. Sometimes I think you can learn about all this stuff, all the books etc but...sometimes it doesnt really sink in unless you actually have it in your life.....I feel like Im having an epiphany....

This is what they do but @LittleBuddha says it so much more eloquently. They both had a trauma in their teenager years or early 20s that brought on this ....they stopped growing up. They just stopped and stayed these teenagers.

So then we start disscussing horizontal identification. So, people who are attracted to others who are exactly the same............our Mums they both go to the same church...more or less .hang out in the same group ......

In horizontal identification (writes a wonderful author called Jennifer Rutherford) like Australia....we are attracted to the same tyoes of people like we are and when someone......like a new girlfriend or a .....new friend try and come into the group, the group pushes to get them out.

we are not like this. We are pushing positivity.