What can I do to help her

Hi @Nay

It looks like you have some really great plans in place.

You seemed so well informed. I really think you're doing a wonderful job. I wish you and your daughter didn't have to go through this though.

We're here if you need us.

The lovely people on the Sane forum have helped me and given me a lot of information. Its a wonderful forum. Thank you

Dear @Nay

Good message @NikNik wrote isn't it? Im going to re read your message but at the same time, write to you remembering what I was like when I was diagnosed.

First; My family issues, which are very overwhelming right now are all because my mother was a bad mother when I displayed your daughters symptoms. I thought I was hearing vioces too and when it got very bad, I would wake up and see people watch me.

I was never given the love that you are giving your children. I think, remembering that time, my step dad saved my life by caring for me but then he also went bad too.

Enough of me;

Oh one more thing. Im on the most largest dosage antidepressent in the world and I need to sleep a lot. My Gp, one of them keeps on trying to cut me down, change antidepressants or lessen them because she says they will be working better if I cut them down. Its driving issues on me.

So; this is my advice; think very seriously if you want to change or rise your medication. Get your GP to refer you to a mental health hospital to speak to a doctor experienced in this.

Be proud, be strong.

Its in no ones business to tell you what to do about your son who I secretly feel that you are doing a good job, noticing his behaviour.

But he is a kid. We are remined of this over and over, with that cute smile of his hey :0)

Can your son see the psychologist at school? Can you make an appouintment with his Primary School headmaster/nurse/ teacher and see what they can offer him?

Without passing judgement and only to give you something that I did when my kids were little.

I would bend down to their height and look at them in the eyes and say, I love you, I am listening to you. You are important to me and it feels like its ........(daughter's name) getting the attention but your just as important.

Just keep on saying it.

Years ago when my oldest son was going through a terrible time....My younger son and him and me would stay up until 3am playing a card game skipbo and I would say that to my younger son. I also said, because he was older than your son, this is ....... time, If you can bear it, can you sit back for another week while he gets the attention? It worked out really really well.

But its difficult to do.

Can you watch a calm DVD with her? Can you bake her a cake. EVerything really calm.

Again, I dont want to write something that is wrong but I wonder if the grief that you are dealng with is also because you yourself were not cared for well when you were her age?

xx

Yes I thought it very important to physically get on child's level. I spent a lot of time on the floor and in pants so that it would be easier.

You give lovely advice @PeppiPatty.

I hope @Nay and her children are going reasonably today.

thankyou my lovely friend, @Appleblossom

Im finding things really difficult at the moment, I shouldnt be on this thread.....

Im suffering panic attacks, every time I see this GP...she puts me on different medication because Im so tired all the time

Im also going through some sticky family stuff from bad parenting all my life,,,,,, and Im almost 50 years old.....so glad your here @Appleblossom

I wanted to write and be heard.

What my husband and I are discussing today is the absolute degrading speach that paople give when...."What do you do for a crust??"

1. never ever discuss your partner as suffering mental issues...like.

Hi, Im Anne. I am married and what I do is care for my husband who suffers times of mental ill health.

Its humiliating. Both of us have mothers who get a lot of ...attention by talking to both of us like we are morons and then. get great joy disscussing us with their friends and strangers.

hello @Nay and @NikNik

There are some amazing things hapening in my family Im almost ready to wite about but not on poor @Nay thread,

Anne xx

Wondeful advice ladies. Thank you

My son has gone camping over night with dad. Just to get him out of the house. Good for them. I have stayed at home with my daughter. She will not come out of her bedroom unless she eats.

Im am so sorry JA47 that your going through tough times.

Please if you have to speak, I want to hear. Good or bad. I need to hear your stories to be able to put my life in perspective.

I have a friend who's son is 5 and only has months to live, bone cancer. Any time I feel pitty on my self, I send her a be strong message and I feel better within myself and my life doesnt seem so bad.

I look forwards to for feedback @PeppiPatty and @Appleblossom.

Thank you for your help.

Yes, we know about the mothers getting attention. We have chosen not to tell our parents and my daughter has asked for only those that need to know.

Several Children in her class have depression or suffer from some kind of mental illness, so at least she is not alone.

Question: Is it more common for those with high intelligence to suffer from a mental illness?