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What can I do to help her

NaySenior Contributor20 Sept 2015, 10:06 am AEST

What can I do to help her

Hi. Im not sure what to do for my gorgeouse daughter. She is 12, gifted child with high intelligence and in a advanced learning program in high school. She loves it and is doing an amazing job.

A throughout her life she has been different, reserved, wise beond her years and has had trouble making friends. She never really belonged. She would tell me about these certain 2 voices that speak to her and lived in her brain but I would always put it down to a creative imagination. this has been going on since she was 5 or so.

I developed depression from when she was 7 and it gradually became worse, to the point that I couldnt function and I distanced myself from my family. I also have a son who is 8 and husband.

Over these years I was unable to be there for her but now life is better and Im strong enough to help.

Last year she told me that one of these voices became violent and was able to get into her body. It physically punched her up and she was unable to stop it.

4 months ago these, 2 voices left and 2 new voices have arived. My daughter has changed.

I got her to draw a picture of her mind and discribe these voices/characters.

These new characters are hostile, violent and plot hurting people. There is so much evil in these new charactes.

They are coming out more frequently and she seems to go into traces more often. My daughter wants help and is fearful of what they can acheive when they take over her body.

We have an appointment with a phycologist is 4 weeks but I just dont know what to do in the mean time. Our family is scared. My son has seen these charactes and is scared.

What can I do besides be there for her to talk to? She had her worst day yesterday and the characters were mentally trying to distroy her. My daughter discribed that they has blinded her in one eye and have knocked her our uncontious. Apparently they have knocked her out before, even for days.

Im trying to be strong and I am doing my best by asking her questions. Am I feeding this even more and doing more harm?

???????????????????

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 6:08 pm AEDT

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Have I made sense ? Lol please read it slow. In a few days I can rewrite x

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NaySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 6:18 pm AEDT

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This sure does make sense @PeppiPatty. The times when she needed me, i wasnt there for her. I was stuck in a depression pit and my husband had to take over in all areas. He did everything for my kids during this time.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 6:22 pm AEDT

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Dear @Nay
Amazing re compassion on your friend. My son was ill like this for a long time too. Are you able to make her a meal with your daughter helping ? It might help your daughter in thinking focus if off her.
Jeepers @Ruth1
What a good practical response....
How are you ?
I put my oldest son in therapy at age of about 8 and now, though he has a diagnosis ..... He's 24years old.....
He listens to me.
He manages his own life.
He is going through ..... 'I don't want to talk to Mum.' but went to visit my oldest brother the other day
Everything he and I discussed a year ago he is doing. He is managing his life by replacing times of lying in bed and chain smoking with working full time. He's having a break from Universtiy and getting through.
I like reading Peter Billimore and have taken his suggestions and brought his ideas to my son last year.
I hope he is well but hear from my oldest brother that he is doing well.
What does your son like doing ?

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 6:30 pm AEDT

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Dear @Nay

It's okay I wasn't there for my sons for a few years when they were teenagers. Something very very bad happened to my oldest son when I lost myself too.
I always think your a better parent if you agree with your kids, " yeah Josaphine, when you were 13 to 16 years old, I was ill and I am sorry. But I'm here now. We can talk about that time whenever you want. Anything you say is safe with me. I am so sorry
And be upfront.
My sons got thAt. 4 years of yelling , discussing it with me. After 4 years I got annoyed and I said okay I was a bad mum for a time but that's it I'm not mad anymore..... Get over it ! So they've started being nice to me but still being it up all the time
Lol

Be prepared @ Nay I love how you parent though !

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NaySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 6:45 pm AEDT

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My daughter has brought up many of time that I said that " she was usless and that she cant do anything right". I cant remeber this time but it was when I was at my lowest point.

I makes me cry every time and it mhard to move on from it.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 7:38 pm AEDT

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It's okay @Nay
Your okay. Your a toughie now. Your daughter will not survive unless you can let her own her experience and change it around herself.

Remember I wrote something very very bad happened to my son when I fell into myself. She can turn this around but age can only do it if you can let her change her own experience

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 7:48 pm AEDT

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@Nay
PleAse only see positives.
There is a wonderful man in sane called @Troubled_One who is changing his experience.
His journey is hard but is sticking to it.
Look what you have achieved @Nay
Change can only happen through being positive. jeepers..... We are able to give our children this.
So do you think that you are able to do something like ask her for help at making a meal for your friend ? Your friend is so lucky to get texts from you and your daughter might feel the heat is off her ?
This would have been something something to focus on.

You are a good parent. We all have the power on deciding when to start. My whole childhood was reading the Selfish Giant by Oscar Wilde and the Narnia series to feel I was getting compassion.

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NaySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 7:52 pm AEDT

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Thank you @PeppiPatty. You open my eyes and broaden my thinking. Your compassionate and caring. Thank you for helping me through this journey.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor04 Oct 2015, 8:24 pm AEDT

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Dear @Nay

It's fine. You are helping me too -
It's okay if you become your own person and have this ........ Extraordinary relationship with your daughter and son -
You can do it.
I miss me sons : but they really love me and though I don't hear from them ...... When I heard from my brother yesterday . I cried and cried all night out of happiness
Triggers and stuff like that will knock you back.
Affirmations and positiveity is something that's a choice
:0)

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NaySenior Contributor10 Oct 2015, 9:02 pm AEDT

Lost and just can't think straight

Really hard tonight.

My daughter has an extra person/voice/alter arrive tonight. A crying yound girl from a different century who wants her mum and doesnt know where she.

What do I do? How do I act? This is not my child? Im so confused?

My daughter depression has hit rock bottom, not sleeping and lost her love for food.

At a loss.

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