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RE: Darkness surrounds me
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Thanks @Former-Member @outlander @Faith-and-Hope
Hope you all have a good day
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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How are you doing @Former-Member ..... are you okay ?
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Hi @Faith-and-Hope,
I am not that good at the moment but will be ok. Just have had a lot to process lately. Helping to organise my Aunty's funeral. It is hard because my family do not know what is going on with me, so trying to act like I am okay in front of them. It is just exhausting.
How are you going? I know you have had a few big days and are concerned for your friend Zoe7. Been thinking of you a lot. You seem to be there for so many of us, but you need to make aure you have people there for you too.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Morning @Former-Member just dropping in to say hello hun, and because I'm thinking of you. It's hard if you've got the added stress of organising a funeral. Try to get my mini me stress breaks in if you can-like a bit of extra time in the toilet. Hide in the pantry (if you can). Just somewhere you can ok to have a cry & mini meltdown. Hugs to you
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Thanks @Sans911
I saw my psychologist this morning and unloaded on him big time. He helped me make sense of a few things so came out feeling better. Tomorrow I am meeting up with family to go over everything. It has just been by phone so far, so will see how I go. Looks like funeral will be Monday.
How are you going now that you are home?
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Just being on-forum is restful for me most of the time @Former-Member ......
@Zoe7 has let me know soanybtines that "she is with me even when she is not with me" and I feel that way about her too, but it is hard waiting for a check-in to know that she is okay .....
Feeling for you Hon as you help prepare your aunt's funeral ..... I hope it helps you to process what has happened with her, and gives you an opportunity to cry your heart out too ...... acknowledging both your love for her and the pain you are enduring ..... similar I guess to crying in the rain ..... which many of us do.
Yes .....until our situation "breaks" I am having to wear something of a mask when I am in social situations ...... but this stage has lasted 8 years so far, so I am probably somewhat detached from doing that ..... like it is an automatic public role.
That was the value in telling a group of friends around me. I can meet up with them and not have to wear the mask ..... and talk about our situation, or not talk about it ..... it doesn't matter either way. They just know, and they care about me, and that is all that matters for now in this state of limbo.
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@Zoe7 has let me know soanybtines that "she is with me even when she is not with me" and I feel that way about her too, but it is hard waiting for a check-in to know that she is okay .....
Feeling for you Hon as you help prepare your aunt's funeral ..... I hope it helps you to process what has happened with her, and gives you an opportunity to cry your heart out too ...... acknowledging both your love for her and the pain you are enduring ..... similar I guess to crying in the rain ..... which many of us do.
Yes .....until our situation "breaks" I am having to wear something of a mask when I am in social situations ...... but this stage has lasted 8 years so far, so I am probably somewhat detached from doing that ..... like it is an automatic public role.
That was the value in telling a group of friends around me. I can meet up with them and not have to wear the mask ..... and talk about our situation, or not talk about it ..... it doesn't matter either way. They just know, and they care about me, and that is all that matters for now in this state of limbo.
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@Faith-and-HopeI am glad to hear that you have people in your life that can support you and lend you an ear in times of need. You must be an incredibly strong person to continue after the last 8 years. It seems like you are the glue that holds you precious family together.
There is a quote by Helen Keller that I love
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Hi @Former-Member - i'm glad meeting with your psychologist helped a bit...
@Faith-and-Hope i wish you didn't have to wear that mask! and i really hope that there is a break through soon in your situations. Walking with you here.
@Former-Member - i hope that the family meeting tomorrow is ok and there is some sharing of happy times with your aunt as well. That quote reminds me of what the forums kind of represent some of the time.
@Faith-and-Hope i wish you didn't have to wear that mask! and i really hope that there is a break through soon in your situations. Walking with you here.
@Former-Member - i hope that the family meeting tomorrow is ok and there is some sharing of happy times with your aunt as well. That quote reminds me of what the forums kind of represent some of the time.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Thank you for your kind words @Former-Member ...... 💐💜💕
It is my faith that strengthens me and sustains my hope that things will surface into a better state ...... that these struggles and traumas that are so hard to live with in the moment will eventually translate into a new and better future, for all of us.
I love your Helen Keller quote, and will keep it close.
It is my faith that strengthens me and sustains my hope that things will surface into a better state ...... that these struggles and traumas that are so hard to live with in the moment will eventually translate into a new and better future, for all of us.
I love your Helen Keller quote, and will keep it close.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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💜 @Former-Member ......
