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RE: Darkness surrounds me
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Sans911Senior Contributor
Re: RE: Darkness surrounds me
@Former-Member I'm sorry if you've had to repeat yourself. I saw something about your Aunty but didn't connect what it was, and thought you told your children about your current MI. How reliant are we on notifications? And when they're not there everything becomes that much harder. I'm sorry about your Auntie's passing, but you sound like an amazing mother to explain that to your children. It wouldn't have been easy to do, and no doubt they may have questions to come in the next few days.
Yes, I understand how hard it is to talk to someone you don't know. But surprisingly, every time you have to tell someone your story, it'll get a little easier to bear. And it will eventually loose its power over you. I can talk about mine as I've already done so with you, and although I won't share details of course, I look at it now that was something that happened to me and I had no power & no control. I still find it hard to not self blame, but as the years pass that gets less and less, and I see more of what it really was. An abuse of power and a betrayal at the highest level.
Yes, the anonymity of these forums whilst keeping us safe is frustrating. I think you, I, @outlander @Former-Member could talk for a month! But this will have to suffice. And it's actually relatively easy to get to know you. And I like what I read & know about you. I know these are really difficult times for you but I see so much strength & determination in you. Hugs ❤️ 💜
Yes, I understand how hard it is to talk to someone you don't know. But surprisingly, every time you have to tell someone your story, it'll get a little easier to bear. And it will eventually loose its power over you. I can talk about mine as I've already done so with you, and although I won't share details of course, I look at it now that was something that happened to me and I had no power & no control. I still find it hard to not self blame, but as the years pass that gets less and less, and I see more of what it really was. An abuse of power and a betrayal at the highest level.
Yes, the anonymity of these forums whilst keeping us safe is frustrating. I think you, I, @outlander @Former-Member could talk for a month! But this will have to suffice. And it's actually relatively easy to get to know you. And I like what I read & know about you. I know these are really difficult times for you but I see so much strength & determination in you. Hugs ❤️ 💜
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Unknown userMember
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@Sans911that is fine, this no notification thing makes me feel like I am in the dark. How relient have we become on it!
I have always been one just to be direct with my kids. There is no point watering it down for them. I'm sure there will be some questions and hopefully they will feel comfortable in asking them.
Hopefully tomorrow goes ok, its not till the afternoon, so have all morning to be ponder on it!!
I think that this forum works becasue it is anonomous. It is much easier to write on here because people understand. And I think we all need someone to understand without questioning us, and to have someone with us through the tough times. To have someone just sit there with you when you are struggling helps immensly. It takes a special person that will support someone else when they are going through hell themselves. There are lots of those special people on here. (Yes you are one of them!)
Nell
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Yes I agree, and I'm not tagging you because your email inbox in the morning will be pinging like crazy!
I agree with everything you say. I'm logging off now, so I'll say goodnight. I'm trialling no sleep tablets tonight, so could be interesting or not.
I be thinking of you tommorow. Im having lunch with my Auntie; I haven't see her in months and she's only an hour away. But she doesn't drive. So she's meeting me in the city. I have a like her a lot. She's funny, warm and kind. So I'll try to drop in with a supportive message before I meet her.
I hope you get some rest 💕
I agree with everything you say. I'm logging off now, so I'll say goodnight. I'm trialling no sleep tablets tonight, so could be interesting or not.
I be thinking of you tommorow. Im having lunch with my Auntie; I haven't see her in months and she's only an hour away. But she doesn't drive. So she's meeting me in the city. I have a like her a lot. She's funny, warm and kind. So I'll try to drop in with a supportive message before I meet her.
I hope you get some rest 💕
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Hey guys .... notifications are starting up again ......
@Former-Member @Sans911
@Former-Member @Sans911
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Unknown userMember
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@Sans911hoping you get some sleep tonight then. Have a lovely lunch tomorrow with your Aunt.
❤️Nell
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Unknown userMember
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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope. Saw your message come through as a notification!! How are you going tonight? I think we have all been in the 'dark' a bit😬
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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Hi to @Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@Sans911@Shaz51@JoeTheLion! Hope everyone is doing well this very early Tuesday morning!
Hi @Former-Member how are you going?
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Unknown userMember
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I am ok thanks @Bunniekins, tough day but you get them. How are you going? No midnight trips planned?!
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Hi @Former-Member ..... 💕
I'm not bad. WH got prickly again open the middle of the day, but around that he is trying to be nice. Trying not to overthink it.
Loved the pun .😏
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member So glad that you a feeling a wee bit better ... No , no midnight walkies through the heart of 'the hood' this morning ... I wish I could go for a walk ...but you know I was talking to my mum and she mentioned some news item where a woman stayed a a pub after her husband left and decided to walk home and was murdered.
It is a shame we cannot go out and appreciate the beauty and peacefulness of the night without being under threat.
