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fear of failing

MDTSenior Contributor

fear of failing

I am worried and anxious every day that I will fail at life

I know I'm only young but I seriously feel like I will become a laughing stock of everyone... then everyone will say "i told you so"

I am sick of being so alone all the time.. I struggle to socialise... even though I know I can do it... Peoeple treat me different because I'm too tall...

I can't handle people anymore with their silly problems... people just abandon me and think I'm being rude or something... but I'm not... I'm just sick of stupid people and I'm also anxious...

I have no idea what to do with my life at all..

Every weekend is horrible. I have nothing to do except be on my own.

Rarely do things get organised and happen... I have nothing else to live for...

I have no proper job because my university timetable is terribly organised (beyond my control) and I have no money left... I feel like a loser who still depends on his parents for support...

I'm sick of medication...

If nothing gets offered to me at the end of the year (highly likely) then I'm going to end it.

I can't handle living like this..

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Hi @MDT,

I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time at the moment. Sometimes the world and other people around us can just feel very overwhelming, so it can be understandable to feel that struggle to socialise. Please know that this feeling can pass as well.

Let us know how you are doing today? You have a very strong social connection in these forums, we are all people that care about you and do not hold judgement - we definately do not think you are a loser in any way. You have helped a lot of people here just by being you and being there for them so try not to underestimate your value.

Maybe we can focus on ths current moment - tell us what you are doing today? Maybe a walk, maybe chatting on here or some uni work?

Take care,

Lauz

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MDTSenior Contributor

Re: fear of failing

Hi @Former-Member
I am at uni today and I only have one class because my timetable is obscure.
But I hopefully can do some reading and some work afterwards while I am here now.
I'm trying to just set myself some weekly goals to fulfill.
I have group support starting tomorrow night as well. That might help me.
It's just very hard when I don't have the means by which to get my independence.. but i suppose it could be a hell of a lot worse..

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Sans911Senior Contributor

Re: fear of failing

@MDT hey there. Sounds like you are going to a little stronger today. Weekly goals sound great; what about some daily ones? And I think your support group might help you feel less alone. I've got a few hours drive home but I'll be back on the forums later today. Take care

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Just keep working towards your goals @MDT ..... and we will walk along with you.

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TABSenior Contributor

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..what @Faith-and-Hope said @MDT at least you're working on it. Things can take a bit of 'undoing' sometimes

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MDTSenior Contributor

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its doing my head in..

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MDTSenior Contributor

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i am over worrying aboutvwhat others think and feel... because i have been doing this for my whole life..

its gotten me nowhere

i mean it when i say i will end it all if nothing happens next year

its too late for anything to change.. so this is my last hope

my youth is gone and i wont get it back..

there is too much darkness i have to combat everyday and its a drag.. i will be alone forever and i turn 24 next week.. i dont want to turn 24..

i want to get into a graduate program because that will help with everything

self improvement bores me because i cant change... ive tried it all...

i dont see any worth in things and this is why i will end it if i dont get a graduate offer at the end of the year... its simple really

i know you probably dont want to hear it. but i dont care what people think anymore because thryv abandoned me already and i havent done anything..

ive screwed myself over and there is very little i can do to change anything

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TABSenior Contributor

Re: fear of failing

So , I'm hearing you say that you happy with your thoughts and not taking advice or attempting change then? There seems to be a pattern. Just saying. I'm sorry.

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MDTSenior Contributor

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@TAB how do you mean a pattern ?
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