SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Thanks @soul, @Appleblossom, @Owlunar, @Shaz51, @Former-Member.. @utopia, for being here, for replies. Nice knowing you're here. Feeling 'het up' atm so hope this makes sense.

Shop work colleagues changed attitude with me (if not just my faulty perception) when closing they realised how busy i was - biggest Sat takings all year - me on counter by myself while they're 'together' out back (as usual). Think my stress levels are too high atm as it doesn't normally bother me so much (being left out).

Something's gotta give soon.

I've been out all day, with work and the Local Festival, too much people contact (stimuli) but really enjoyed the Quilting display.

The tree man came back - the job is almost finished. Two neighbours have commented how open / better it all looks now.

Nearly done (poor tree)

Today's potential buyers were a no go.

My son rang, feels down re 2 job rejections & someone bumped into / dinged his new car in his unit block carpark. He got all stressed that i wont be available to help him if he has to move and I'm in Sydney helping mum&dad... Yep, he's really worried he's gonna be homeless as Centrelink are stuffing him round too. Taking the house off the market would restore his backup plan at least. I asked my Brisbane friend if she'd consider taking in a boarder - "that's a possibility" she said, so maybe that will be better for him, to be in Brisbane to build up his business there.

Maybe I just have to learn to be content here, with what I have, old house, bad memories, shallow distant people and all... could be worse I guess. My son commented that I'm happier here than anywhere I've lived (interesting observation I probably need to listen to).

@Owlunar, my boy lives 3hrs from here, he's not home. Mum is not in hospital yet, but we have appointed a CNC Community Nurse overseeing her home palliative care processes now (about time!), with home visits. I am working covertly at helping put more & more outside help in place first, as much as possible, as being there in person is so toxic for my MH (& other family members too, re mum & Sz brothers). My psychologist advises against my being carer, its so hard to know what to do when i care so much. Finances are a big barrier with distance.

How was lunch with your daughter Dec? Glad you have her.

@soul, don't feel too progressive on the DECLUTTER front, but not quitting just yet. I hope to be avminimalost like you one day, you have so many qualities I respect and aspire to in life 💜

@Appleblossom, Glad you have a new stove top - bit like Christmas to have something nice like that done. Ta for calling me 'normal' ☺ and noticing the effort my tree ventures & property require of me (trailer loads & all), nice that you notice. Its a big part of why I want to leave. I love trees too but not when they become dangerous like this one, but i will miss the shade.

"THE HUNTER GATHER FORCE IS STRONG WITH US"

WE MUST PREVAIL💪lol

Hey @Former-Member. Sounds like it’s Festival season. I checked in on a street festival in my area too. Had lots of food vans, rides for kids, little bars set up and a stage with live music. Even took the dog through it and watched for a bit. She didn’t seem to mind too much at the time. I think she’s exhausted now and asleep on my bed. She followed me upstairs when I went to have a shower and just stayed there.

The tree certainly has had a hair cut or should that be branch cut? Even if you don’t move, you have done a lot to make life more comfortable. Perhaps take the whatever will be, will be attitude.

Sounds like you’re busy at work and put in a huge effort, moreso than your colleagues. Stuff them, I say. Keeps you occupied and you get to interact with customers. Socialisation is healthy.

Sorry that your son is having a bad trot. It’s a tough world at times. He seems pretty resilient and he has youth on his side. Easier to find work in the city though.

I had minimalism thrust upon me when the ex husband threw everything out. Then moving a few times and having to sell, give away or throw away stuff makes you not want to accumulate much anymore. Now we don’t have much room in any case. Also, it’s easier to keep the home clean when there aren’t a lot of knick knacks and things around. It’s basic but comfortable enough. I didn’t even buy a bed for myself until after about six months. Slept on an air mattress.

Any decisions regarding the parents or is that a wait and see situation at the moment?

@soul, I have organised to visit my son for lunch Tuesday, maybecstay the night. Might visit parents after that, not sure. Just wanna crawl under a rock for a week if the truth be known.

You do really well 🙂

Hey @Former-Member - you’re awake early. Disturbed sleep? Hoe you got some rest afterwards.

That will be nice to see your son. Parents - hmmmm? Do what your heart feels you need to. Wishing you some much needed clarity @Former-Member.

Me? Most of the time, I just wing it. Live in this moment. Anything else is a path to sadness. Gotta take some joy where you can.

Pooch woke me at 2:00am wanting to do outside. Upset tummy. Glad that I heeded her call. Maybe she ate something off the ground that didn’t agree with her when we were walking through the street festival last night.

Won $100 door prize at the local Craft Festival -- way to go @Former-Member