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The ALL-YEAR-ROUND job of DECLUTTERING and CLEANING our homes is daunting. Especially for those of us who HOARD, or struggle with depression, and decisions, anxiety & other MI. I'm so challenged in this way so reaching out for support. Maybe start an Declutterers Army 💪
If you suffer the same challenge or have some great suggestions - type away... 💙💜💙💜💙💜💙
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @soul
I am really sorry that your daughter was thoughtless enough to want to discard the watch and ring you gave her - but then - she did leave them where you would find them and now you have them and you keep them - maybe in the future you will have a granddaughter or a niece you can give them to
Personally I would feel hurt about that but then - when we give people personal items there is the chance they won't like them - but then - that is their choice - I have been given things in my lifetime that I treasure but never use - I keep them though - things like that hold memories I guess and are keepsakes
Keeping small personal items and old photos is not what I consider hoarding - I have scrapbooks myself that I did years ago - I enjoyed it until I got Companion Cat who thought it was fun to play with what I was doing - and I stopped - but I have these memories and photos stored somewhere - in the future someone might find what was happening in my life - in the world - and be glad to have them. Or not. We can't take things with us but we can keep precious things forever our lifetime
I think I would take the watch and ring thing personally myself - but I understand - and I care about how you feel
No need to feel guilty about going through her stuff and if there is more stuff she wants to leave with you - tell her it can stay for such-and-such a time - unless of course you like them -
Thinking of you Soul
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soulSenior Contributor
Thanks for your reply @Owlunar.I lost so much stuff during my divorce ( my ex threw out everything that was mine) that I am hanging on to anything that has some sentimental value. I still think about an ornament or dish i used to have. The photos are what I miss the most - stuff before the digital age.
I have led quite the minimalistic life since and even then could declutter some clothes I know I will probably never wear again. Shall get stuck into it once my arm and hand is more functional.
@lapses - I'm really impressed with your efforts under such challenging circumstances - way to go!!!!
Hi @Faith-and-Hope - wishing you all the best. How are things going? I think of you and the huge adjustment you are dealing with.
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soulSenior Contributor
Sounds good @Determined. Great to have willing helpers @Faith-and-Hope
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Sure is @soul .... ❣️
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