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Think you might have more contact with your son now @utopia? I know you were hoping that maybe he'd live with you again.

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Hi @utopia

I took the day off today - just felt tired and achey-painey - things could have been worse but still

I took the chance to read back through some old messags in my phone and I had forgotten that your mother has CRPS and Fibromyalgia - not good - either one is more than just one pain - wow - her life must be tough

And considering that presently younger people who are more atuned to what is going on the the world of psychotherapy I would assume your Mum would be like mine and find the whole thing really uncomfortable - even though I am probably about your mother's age - and find it okay -

My mother really needed to have a attitude adjustment - she was a strange person - and would not have vaguely entertained therapy until she had to after Dad died and she totally lost the plot and as you know and I know we are often told to confront the person with who we have trouble and at least tell them (us) what the problem/s is/are

And my mother had to tell me - alas - the poor woman was totally unaware I had had a long conversation with Dad before he died about all of that and she got stuck with the sentence that they had done wrong by me and repeated it three times not hearing me telling her I knew and it was okay and not to worry - I had to leave the third time because I thought she was about to have a heart attack

I thought I would share this - I think your Mum had a hard time with the session - I hope she can manage it again but - yeah - what do I say - your mother has chronic pain and fibromyalgia is confusing with the "fibro-fog" doing whatever it does - I know people can have trouble getting lost in their thoughts

But I am proud of you - you sound so much better now - and wow - you seem to have a presence and a future that wasn't there before - you have been vindicated - and it is so good to be vindicated

All the best Utopia - I really hope life does move onward and upward for you now - and it seems your son is okay in spite of everything and just needs time

Gentle hugs

Dec

Hi @utopia - glad to hear that you are making progress and the meds are kicking in. Sorry about your Dad - it must have been hard on your Mum and you. Interesting about how people used to deal with mental illness by self-medicating with alcohol. My family on my father's side has a history of dying young from alcohol related illness. I researched my family tree a few years back and there was so much early death from liver failure etc. going back many generations so I know there is really a genetic component to MI. At least now we live in an age where we can get treatment for MI and there is more understanding in society. Years ago there was no information and people just self-destructed on alcohol. I don't touch alcohol at all now and haven't for many years. Also since having kids I know I need to be a good example. I think Australia has less of a drinking culture now - people seem to take their health and social responsibility more seriously these days.

Hi @utopia - glad that you haven't self medicated with alcohol today. Got any more AA meetings to attend this week?

You're right @Former-Member about better awareness regarding health issues and mental health in particular. Still a long way to go but it's a step in the right direction.