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Any advice and suggestions about how to stay grounded and do self care much appreciated. I have some big stressors in my life right now. That combined with Bipolar 1 and Anxiety is really knocking me around. Trying to sell home as result of marriage breakdown, pay debts, find new home. My daughter (who is my main support) is leaving home (can't blame her). I have a young son to look after and I'm trying to protect him from the strain of the situation. All this is coming off the back of a mixed episode, which has recently been replaced by plumetting mood and skyrocketing anxiety. I am teary and on the verge of panic and need to talk myself down - there's noone else to do it. The future is scaring me.
it is so heart-breaking when a parent is very ill. It is so hard to see them like that, when we are used to them being the one to take care of everyone else.
I think you are doing the right thing by going to your Mum's side. I don't think you will regret it. @frog. there is very little you can do, other than be there.
And we will be here for you, too. xx
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Unknown userMember
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Dear @frog Sounds so difficult and wanted you to know im here with you. So much has been brought up i think it's completely understandable that making decisions is hard, i've also felt like that when very low and stressed. No matter what, im glad you know we are here to support you, hope today is okish...
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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I have been through this too @frog@Sahara ..... it’s one of those times where you have to inhale, take the next step, exhale ...... take a moment to make sure you are still managing ..... I hale, take the next step, exhale .....
Feeling for you both, so much. All I can say is to try not to overthink things, and work moment to moment. Are there hospital counsellors available to you ? It is helpful to have someone mindful of you, and how you are coping, while the main focus is on your parent as the patient.
Hugs n hugs 💜
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
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Hi @frog, still with you. Please tag me any time you would like support even if I seem not to be around. I too have been through the death of a parent (my father in 2003). It was the best thing I did going to see him when I did and has left me with much greater peace than if I'd missed that. I too know that feeling of not being able to make decisions when this is going on. But you have made a decision, the most important one just now, to go see your mother. Your sibling is wise to do the same and it will benefit them as much as you too, so try to ease up on any guilt there. Sitting with you and thinking of you.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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sitting with you @frog
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Unknown userMember
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Hi @frog - i hope you are travelling safely now, sitting with you and thinking of you.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Sounds so difficult and wanted you to know im here with you @frog
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Difficult times @frog We are with you in spirit.
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
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Good morning, @frog. Just checking in with how you are today, whether you would like to talk more here. Wondering when you are due to take off travelling to see your mum. Still with you and thinking of you. Maz
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