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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 6:48 pm AEDT

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Sounds like you will be in the car for awhile tomorrow hon @outlander

Hopefully the drive goes ok and you do not have to deal with too much pain. Hoping too that your Pop is ok in the car with you too.

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 6:52 pm AEDT

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I dread being in the car with him @Snowie even for short drives. Its like a time for him to gwr very repetitive or literally pick at everything and anything even when i put his music on or change the subject etc. Gets very draining. Ill be up there a while longer then expected as id like to explore parking areas etc for thr hospitsl ill be seeing the specialist in on friday.

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 6:52 pm AEDT

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Sorry for rambling @Snowie

Are you going ok? Do you want to talk a out anything?

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 7:06 pm AEDT

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It's not rambling hon @outlander

Your concerns are very real and very valid. I am sure being in the car with your Pop for that long would get very draining for you. I would not like to be in the car with my mum for that long! Would send me nuts.

I am going so so. I am trying to do what my psych told me when things get bad but not having much luck. I have been listening to some recordings which are helping a bit.

Am really worried that I can't get in to see her for 4 weeks now. I am on a cancellation list but not holding my breath.

Also worried that because that last session was the first session with her and it was a "get to know each other" session, that I couldn't speak to her about what I really needed to. Concerned that I will have to wait another 4 weeks to talk about some issues so worried they will just keep pilling up inside my mind. The issues seem to be getting worse not better at the moment.

Sorry, there is my ramble if you can make sense of it

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 7:16 pm AEDT

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It must be really hard to go from having supports to barely any @Snowie i know youve been having so many issues in the psych departments hey. I really hope that maybe this new psych will be a good fit for you and will be able to make appointments more regular too. A month is a long time, so much stuff happens in 4 weeks!
Would it help to talk to a helpline or talk here (if you can of course) to help with thr building up stuff?

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 7:24 pm AEDT

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I am hoping too that she is a good fit for me @outlander She was really nice the other day so that is at least a start. Of course the "trust" will have to be built but hoping that can happen over time.

I am worried about talking on here, about putting my issues onto you and others when you have so much to deal with yourself.

I will probably reach out to helplines, especially when my sh and si increase. I get to see my pdoc in two weeks so I am hoping to last till then at least.

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 7:31 pm AEDT

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Trust takes abit to get back @Snowie especially when what we talk about can be cards kept close to our chest. There needs to be at least abit of trust there.

Theres lots of us here who want to help, your never a burden. Ever. Thats what we're here for too. You help me even with the things your struggling with too, we're here for each other 💙

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 7:43 pm AEDT

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I am hoping I can learn to trust her @outlander

Sometimes I think it is easier to help others then ourselves. Admitting that we need help means we are admitting to having problems/issues. That can be hard for any of us to admit at times.

You do help me hun in more ways then you realise 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 7:49 pm AEDT

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I agree @Snowie its hard to ask for help and sometimes to admit that we need help too. Its often easier to help someone else even at our own health expense.
I will keep my fingers crossed that she will be a good fit and she will help guide you through things and be understanding.
💜💜

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Feb 2021, 8:14 pm AEDT

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It is easier to help others @outlander

Just made another cuppa for myself. Have to try and stay awake to go get D from friends house. H has had too much to drink to drive 😒😒

My mum has been the big problem lately, sometimes I wish she didn't live with us.

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