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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Emelia8Senior Contributor08 Feb 2021, 9:06 am AEDT

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@outlander I just want to reiterate what both @Anastasia and @Lee82 have said.

You are very deserving and very worthy of support and love Li'l One.

I know you feel unappreciated and taken advantage of, in your family caring role. Which is so unfair. But that is not a true reflection of your value.

As you know, it upsets and angers me greatly, how you are treated and disrespected within the family unit.

But I understand how hard it is to change long held practices and perceptions. You are in a difficult situation, which must seem impossible to escape from.

My wish is that you could find a way to put yourself first for a change. And that may well mean giving up your caring role.

Emelia 💖

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outlanderSenior Contributor08 Feb 2021, 11:32 pm AEDT

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Thanks everyone

Has been a hard day. Mentally and physically. Had a bad reaction to something to top it off

Just getting home now

Sending love tto you all 💙💕💜💚❤

@Emelia8 @Snowie @Lee82 @Anastasia @Eve7 @Sans911

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Eve7Senior Contributor08 Feb 2021, 11:37 pm AEDT

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Love you @outlander

xox

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outlanderSenior Contributor09 Feb 2021, 12:34 pm AEDT

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@Eve7

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outlanderSenior Contributor09 Feb 2021, 12:37 pm AEDT

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@Lee82 @Snowie @Sans911

@Anastasia i had a look at the resources. i ended up contacting a dementia helpline for a few suggestions on his behaviours. just have to try and implement them while managing myself
thank you

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor09 Feb 2021, 12:39 pm AEDT

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That makes me really happy to hear. Kudos to you dear @outlander and the biggest of hugs for being you xox

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outlanderSenior Contributor09 Feb 2021, 12:43 pm AEDT

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thanks @Emelia8
i know its hard for you guys here because ou can physically do anything. i talked to the helpline and they gave me a few suggestions but im so exhausted. i will try them but i dont really have much energy right now.
a ladies issues has decided to arrive and has knocked me around because the pain stops me from being able to actually walk. i literally just shuffle, hunch over cause of it or have to stay in bed even with pain relief. makes me feel quite sick sometimes.

i want to give up caring but i also dont either. i also want to try and find a way that works better or something.
i tried talkig to mum and she says if he gets to annoying or gets his aggressive tones etc out just go to her house for a whil. i have the kids till midnight anyway but i had to do dinner and 2 injured horses later this arvo and take one to sport if i can manage it. think ill go watch a movie and lay down for a while now though

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outlanderSenior Contributor09 Feb 2021, 12:46 pm AEDT