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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Eve7 💕

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Emelia8Senior Contributor

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Sure @outlander ... ask away.

If I can help, I will. 😄💖

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thank you @Emelia8

I know that pops geriatrician is for him but do you know if im allowed to talk to her myself like without pop around?
I dont know if im allowed to do that or not.

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor

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@outlander I've tagged you in something that might help? 👀👂🤗🙏💞

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Emelia8Senior Contributor

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Not quite sure @outlander

Usually as a carer, you consult with the person you care for. Ask them what they want or need and then act upon their wishes.

However, I believe you can contact a health provider if you feel its in the persons best interest. You can relay important and relevant information to them on a confidential basis. But they are not able to give you information in return, unless your Pop is present. But it gives a carer the opportunity to have input about matters your Pop would not otherwise divulge.

Can I suggest you contact the geriatrician receptionist. Mention you have concerns and wish to relay info to the Dr. And ask how best to get info to the Dr .. ie phone, email or face to face consult. With or without Pop present.

Em

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thank you @Anastasia ill take a look

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor

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I hope it helps sweetie x

@outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thank you @Emelia8
Im just about ready to give up at this point. Im tired of fighting and arguing. Dont even want to be here anymore. As usual the health professionals see one thing and always take his words for it. At one point the nurse asked me 'is that accurate'after asking pop a question for those mental memory test things where they ask what hes capable of and the date and to draw images etc and i just said does it really matter what i think and she scoffed and kept asking questions. The entire time pop kept saying that i was trying to have him commited and to not listen to me because i lie. He made out he does everything here.

@Anastasia

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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I was trying to be polite and only answer where needed. He kept repeating himself before the quiz started and i just mentioned he has been diagnosed with mild dementia and she turned glared at me and said 'yes. I know. You dont have to tell me' in that snarky attitude.
When the tests were done she says 'he only has mild dementia you should be able to manage well at home, make sure he sees his supports regularly'

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor

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Oh hunny. I hear you. Some "professionals" treat us carers as an inconvenience. I do think that the information I tagged you in may help? I'm sorry you are not being validates @outlander . It's a hard enough job without that sort of treatment. Here for.tou gorgeous girl x

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